2 IUIs, 3 IVFs, 1 DE cycle, 1 Embryo Adop all BFN, running out of hope :(


#1

I really need to hear from someone out there that has been through a similar experience and eventually got that BFP!!

I started my fertility journey three years ago, at the ripe age of 38. I’ve been with the same RE, starting out w/ IUIs on clomid then injectables, all ending in BFN. I moved onto 3 IVF cycles, all ending in BFN (RE said poor egg quality due to age). We decided to move to a proven egg donor (who had two successful donor cycles w/ other patients and both of those ladies are pregnant). My DE cycle ended in a miscarriage at 6wks. AGAIN, RE said poor egg quality (with the donor eggs) and there was nothing left to freeze from that cycle. Then we moved onto embryo adoption (embryos came from a couple that used donor eggs), this couple transferred one blast and had a baby girl from that cycle.

We transferred 2 embies (1 8cell and 1 6cell) and I just found out today that my first FET from this embryo adoption is a BFN! I cant take it anymore! I’m waiting to get my call from my RE to tell me…poor egg quality again…ughhhhhhh!

Please share any stories that may give me hope that I shouldnt just give up! We’ve already spent close to 50K that we barely could afford. My DH doesnt want to keep “throwing our money away”.

I’m so sad right now… If I had a child already I may be able to accept this a little better but we have none.


#2

sorry to hear about your loss. I know how hard this can be. Don’t give up hope, have you tried everything like acupuncture and alternative treatments in conjunction?


#3

[quote=agracie1]I really need to hear from someone out there that has been through a similar experience and eventually got that BFP!!

I started my fertility journey three years ago, at the ripe age of 38. I’ve been with the same RE, starting out w/ IUIs on clomid then injectables, all ending in BFN. I moved onto 3 IVF cycles, all ending in BFN (RE said poor egg quality due to age). We decided to move to a proven egg donor (who had two successful donor cycles w/ other patients and both of those ladies are pregnant). My DE cycle ended in a miscarriage at 6wks. AGAIN, RE said poor egg quality (with the donor eggs) and there was nothing left to freeze from that cycle. Then we moved onto embryo adoption (embryos came from a couple that used donor eggs), this couple transferred one blast and had a baby girl from that cycle.

We transferred 2 embies (1 8cell and 1 6cell) and I just found out today that my first FET from this embryo adoption is a BFN! I cant take it anymore! I’m waiting to get my call from my RE to tell me…poor egg quality again…ughhhhhhh!

Please share any stories that may give me hope that I shouldnt just give up! We’ve already spent close to 50K that we barely could afford. My DH doesnt want to keep “throwing our money away”.

I’m so sad right now… If I had a child already I may be able to accept this a little better but we have none.[/quote]
My 2 cents - maybe you should get a second opinion from another RE. If the donor eggs and donor embryos have been successful with other people, then maybe they aren’t poor quality after all. Could there be other issues - like implantation issues or low progesterone or immune issues? I’m a little surprised that your RE has not discussed or explored those possibilities. Have you had a SHG done to check out the uterus?