42 and need egg donor abroad. Please help


#1

Hey ladies

I’m new here and looking for any support. I think I just need to talk with someone
I’m 42 and don’t have children my medical records must be longer then a novel:

a malignant cancer of both ovaries
complicated operation to remove the ovaries
chemotherapy
a course of treatment after chemo

I wish i freeze my egg before the cancer I didn’t even knew i was in the risk group

I have a boyfriend and he have a daughter from another relationship. She is 15 and live with her mother but she come to us almost every weekend. I would love to have a baby
My only chance is with donors egg
Have anyone here experience donation??

I don’t know with whom I can talk about it:(


#2

Hello, bursu! I’m so sorry to read about your ovaries cancer. It must be a big hit for you, I’m very sorry…
This is my story I’ve added to my profile page:
Me 40 DH42
TTC 10/14
Dx: PCOS, blocked fallopian tubes
MFI (low #, poor morphology)
IVF # 9/15 Failed
IVF # 12/15 Failed
Judging from all our failures by this time the next step for us is using donor’s egg. I’ve been dreaming about having a baby so long that can’t keep waiting any more. My doc suspects I might be a carrier of a Wilson disease (rare genetic one). It’s due to my family story and my miscarriage a year ago. Oh God when all this will finally end ?!?
Now we’re considering the clinic change as I’m sick and tired of everyone there, nurses, docs - everybody who know your pains and each day ask whether I feel better, or if everything is OK. Simply saying - NO until we have a baby, I won’t be OK.
Recently I’ve read info about Biotexcom clinic which is in Ukraine. They offer really attractive egg donation programs. Here is the link you may look through some good talks about it: mother-surrogate.info.
We’re thinking about booking the 5 att de ivf program, it sounds really nice.
Wish you all the best, dear. May God help you on your path. Hugs xx


#3

Hello SamnthaSun
Thank you I appreciate your respond
Sorry about your fails. I know how do you feel about all this health problems. I really hope It will have a happy ending because right now I have very depressing thoughts
How did you find this clinic? Do they have a good revives?
I’m going to read about them now. Did you book an appointment already?
Thank you
and i wish you luck X


#4

Thanks for your kind words :slight_smile:
Well, we’ve already booked the 1st app on 10th March. We happened to read about Biotexcom on different forums, that’s why we just thought it’s a nice place to be in. As people talk much about it.
Everything started with coming across some of their general information. it went like:

  • they have been working in this area for 10 years;
  • they carry out about 900-1000 egg donation cycles per year;
  • their success rate is about 65%;
  • they are ISO certified;
  • they have no age limits, only the health limit;
  • they currently screen all their donors according to the highest European standards;
  • 70% of their donors had college degree, etc.

So you’d better read about everything yourself, it’s pretty useful. Wish you all the best, if needed on 10th March I’ll be able to write more on the point as will have app already conducted
:wink:


#5

Hi, I am sorry to know that you are going through this. I could recommend Invicta clinics (Gdansk), my friends have undergone ivf and have been satisfied. Prices are affordable, clinics are top rated, have high success rates and offer from 1 week waiting time for egg donor. Hope this helps. Good luck with your search and treatment. xx


#6

Hi girls! I had gone through an egg donation in BioTexCom. I was diagnosed with PCOS 6 years ago. Unfortunately one year of medical treatment didn’t help. We even thought to forget about kids issue and live as it is. But damn, it was just impossible for us! Kids it’s a meaning of ‘happiness’ both for me and my husband! So we decided not to put up with the situation. We started our search for a clinic in Europe. We’ve found a couple of good ones, 'explored’ each review and each website, where those clinics were mentioned. And of course official websites were learned by heart. So after the discussions, thinking through all pros and cons, we chose Ukrainian clinic. So, we came to the clinic and our doctor told us everything about donation. In the case of 5 failures, the clinic would refund us our money. I’ve got pregnant from the first attempt! I gave birth to two beautiful kids, Daniel and Denis. The clinic has warm atmosphere and positive influence. The service was pretty good, they gave us guarantees on success. We were satisfied with everything. If you want to ask something, I’ll answer with pleasure!


#7

Hello Fiona! I’m glad your procedure was successful. Thanks for telling it, very inspiring I guess. But I have a dread of failure donation. Yes, you can try not once, but I’m not sure I will survive mentally after first unsuccessful attempt. And try again and again… It’s too painful for me. We are not rich people and we don’t want to waste money. We’re thinking of trying surrogacy and don’t waste neither money nor mental health.


#8

Hi Mandy! Actually the clinic, which I’ve been talking about, has a solution for such cases as yours. Our manager told us that they have such package of services, where you can try donation first. In case of failure, you can turn to surrogacy. So you won’t loose your money and still can try both options. I don’t remember all details. But if you are interested, you may go to their website and look for yourself what is what! If you have more questions, please don’t be shy to ask) It’s better to talk with somebody, who had already gone through the procedure!)


#9

Hi, ladies! A few words just to keep you updated. We have our 1 st app in Biotexcom finally conducted :slight_smile:
We both came to the clinic to undergo the required tests (blood tests for both, pap smear, sperm count). The doctor studied medical records, performed transvaginal ultrasound check and evaluated our chances to successfully accomplish the program. He didn’t say a single word about difficult conceiving in my ripe age - 40 yo (which seemed to be the first aim for the specialists we’ve visited before. And this made me really surprised!!) He said there is always the way out and that there are no age limits only the health ones. Then he explained us the treatment plan and patiently answered all our questions (Believe me, this was not the shortest list!!). Our package price also covered the medications needed for my protocol.
Finally we’ve booked a DE IVF program for 5 att as it goes with a guarantee. (In case of 5 failures they refund all money paid.) Then we had all agreements signed.
Our doc is marvelous, understanding and supportive. I think this is the best acquaintance of all we’ve had up to this time.
Wish you all good luck;)Hugs xx


#10

Oocyte is the cell of an ovary which is ready to undergo - cell division’ (meioticdivision - reduces chromosomes) to form up the ‘ovum’, i.e. the matured reproductive cell of the woman. Until 1983, there are no effective treatments for women who are facing tubal disease or premature or natural ovarian failure in the early days IVF technology establishment. In the early days of the IVF treatment premature – ovarian failure only under oocyte donation method, but now-a-days most of the advanced reproductive ages of the woman also suggested for oocyte donation. The major reason for this trend shift is due to the large population changes at particular sectors or regions.
Women with above 36-age may need oocyte donation as the mandatory thing, for below 36 years of age IVF treatment is an option. Because, oocytes count may decline in the women, who has crossed the age of 36 years. Coming to the treatment statistics, women that uses donor oocytes have a 50% chances to get a successful embryo transfer irrespective of the age of the women. It’s really the wonder of the science that the woman with 60 years also going to conceive with the donor oocytes instead of crossing the menopausal age. This treatment provides the hormonal support to the woman instead of the post-menopausal stage. Nothing comes easily without pain, like how there are some complications also associated with the oocyte donation treatment such as cesarean section - (40 to 76%), hypertension - (16 to 40%), and gestational diabetes - (20%)according to the research specialists.


#11

Samanthasun-wish you positive cycliing xx


#12

Really?! That’s perfect! I will check their website and look through this package! Can I ask you some more? I told my husband about Ukraine and the clinic. He thinks it will be hard to find housing and also how will we find the clinic without knowing language? I’m not sure that Ukrainian people speak English well and will be able to explain us the way. We consider the variant of hiring a translator, but all these seem to cost a lot. At least there would be no language barrier in USA, UK or India.


#13

[QUOTE=“SamanthaSun, post: 1793122, member: 86634”]Hi, ladies! A few words just to keep you updated. We have our 1 st app in Biotexcom finally conducted :slight_smile:
We both came to the clinic to undergo the required tests (blood tests for both, pap smear, sperm count). The doctor studied medical records, performed transvaginal ultrasound check and evaluated our chances to successfully accomplish the program. He didn’t say a single word about difficult conceiving in my ripe age - 40 yo (which seemed to be the first aim for the specialists we’ve visited before. And this made me really surprised!!) He said there is always the way out and that there are no age limits only the health ones. Then he explained us the treatment plan and patiently answered all our questions (Believe me, this was not the shortest list!!). Our package price also covered the medications needed for my protocol.
Finally we’ve booked a DE IVF program for 5 att as it goes with a guarantee. (In case of 5 failures they refund all money paid.) Then we had all agreements signed.
Our doc is marvelous, understanding and supportive. I think this is the best acquaintance of all we’ve had up to this time.
Wish you all good luck;)Hugs xx[/QUOTE]

Hello Samantha! Congrats, that’s a great news! It’s a huge step and I wish you luck! Have you already assigned your next visit? Were there another couples in the clinic? Sorry for so many questions, if it’s personal you shouldn’t answer. I’ve just found this clinic and I want to talk with someone who was there and who’ve seen everything with their own eyes. What about language barrier? Was it hard to communicate?


#14

Mandy, just feel free to ask whatever you’d like to. I’ll be pleased to help you as once have been in the same position. (I mean asking lovely ladies on the forums about their experience with the clinic:)). As for the couples I should say we’ve seen many. But i don’t know exactly their reason for being there. This clinic is also surrogacy friendly (you know, Ukraine itself), so probably there were some of them applying for it. I cannot definitely say if there were any for DE IVF actually. But I hope with time we’ll get more acquaintances and find out more.
AS for the language barrier we haven’t faced any. We had a wonderful girl in charge of the program ready to answer and address all our questions. Further their personal counselor will guide us through the whole program step by step. She’ll also assist in communication with our fertility specialists. So don’t worry about this. :wink:
Our next visit is next week. Hope it’ll bring some other positive results. Fingers crossed…
Will keep you updated. Take care, dear X


#15

Don’t worry about housing and language! You won’t have to look for accommodation by yourself or hire translator. The clinic provided us with comfortable apartment with all needed facilities. As Samantha said, the clinic also provided us with manager, who translated for us and answered all your questions. Also we were met by taxi driver in the airport and taxi carried us to the clinic and across Kiev. All these have already included into package of services so you shouldn’t pay more.


#16

[QUOTE=“SamanthaSun, post: 1793258, member: 86634”]Mandy, just feel free to ask whatever you’d like to. I’ll be pleased to help you as once have been in the same position. (I mean asking lovely ladies on the forums about their experience with the clinic:)). As for the couples I should say we’ve seen many. But i don’t know exactly their reason for being there. This clinic is also surrogacy friendly (you know, Ukraine itself), so probably there were some of them applying for it. I cannot definitely say if there were any for DE IVF actually. But I hope with time we’ll get more acquaintances and find out more.
AS for the language barrier we haven’t faced any. We had a wonderful girl in charge of the program ready to answer and address all our questions. Further their personal counselor will guide us through the whole program step by step. She’ll also assist in communication with our fertility specialists. So don’t worry about this. :wink:
Our next visit is next week. Hope it’ll bring some other positive results. Fingers crossed…
Will keep you updated. Take care, dear X[/QUOTE]

Thank you Samantha for this help! You calmed me down! I will tell this great news to my husband. Because he has already started to look for translators and hotels! We don’t want to spend extra money. We want to save something for our kid, if everything is going well. I wish you luck at your next meeting!And will wait for your positive update))


#17

Girls, you really helped! Such a relief. Because we decided to count how much will it cost if to hire translator, taxi, housing. All these cost a lot and it had really upset us. But the fact that all these are provided by clinic made my to breathe freely. Girls, what about donors? Can we choose the donor or clinic choose by itself? And also what criteria are considered in choosing the right donors?


#18

You can’t choose donor, because contact of clients with donor is prohibited by law. But you can provide the desired phenotype and clinic will choose the right donor for you. The clinic checks donors and their health very thoroughly. They have special requirements for them. First requirement is age of donor, they should be 18 – 25 years old. Second requirement is perfect physical and mental health. And third requirement is absence of genetic diseases in the donor and her family.


#19

The donors are so young!It seems the clinic selects donors for program very attentively. And what is the procedure? I mean did you tell the clinic about desirable appearance of donor and they look for the right one? How much time did you visit the clinic? How much did you pay? And did you pay all sum of money at once? Sorry for this questioning, I just want to know everything to made the final decision)


#20

It’s fine, Mandy! Please ask whatever you need) We sent information about the desirable characteristics of the donor to the clinic. We indicated height, weight, hair color, eyes color, nose, face and lips shape. Generally saying, all features we needed. Then the clinic found three donors corresponding to our phenotypes and sent us info about them. And then we chose the one, who suited us the most. Speaking about visits, we were in Ukraine twice. The first meeting lasted 2 days and included medical examination. Also we were provided with information about the program, organizational and medical parts and terms of the contract. Our second visit lasted a week. There were the sperm pick-up, fertilization of donor’s eggs and embryo transfer. We’ve chosen Guaranteed success package for 9 900 euros. This sum was divided into two payments. So we paid 50% during first visit and 50% during second visit.