I am soooo sorry!!! There is NOTHING like finding out someone is preggo while you are trying EVERYTHING to have a child… especially the ladies who get preggo on accident. I mean, really!!!.. How does that even happen… LOL. That seems like a crazy thing to happen for us on this forum, but yet it happens all of the time & sadly we have to hear about it. It’s easy to feel isolated, angry, sad, mad, confused, bitter, hopeful one day, depressed the next…et…etc… IF comes with a lot of mixed emotions!
I have been in this situation so many times over the years. I have cried getting off the phone with friends/family sharing the news, left baby showers crying on the way home, sad that people want to call me over baby things (nursery, names…etc). It’s not that I am mad at the expecting couples… I’m just so sad for myself & for my DH (who would make an excellent dad). Keep in mind… we all are grieving sooo bad & want to experience the joy of parenthood as well.
I was doing fertility treatments when my BFF got pregnant… I thought for sure we’d end up preggo together, but that wasn’t the case… that was 8 years ago… she has since had one more child. Unless someone has been down this road… No one understands what it’s like when everyone around you is pregnant or have children while you are stuck in a rut. No one understands how sad it is that we have to pay thousands just for a CHANCE at pregnancy. No one understands the impact it has on the marriage or the individual. How about the quiet house that should be filled with giggles & kids screaming?! SIGH All people can say is - “just adopt” (but yet they have bio kids!!!) “relax” (like we weren’t relaxing when we first started TTC, how many vacations have we been on relaxing & how will relaxing cure blocked tubes or whatever disease is preventing pregnancy) “maybe it’s not meant to be”… REALLY… it’s meant for crack heads & abusive mothers to have children but not the loving couples who could provide a good home!!! Like you, I have heard the most RIDICULOUS comments ever on TTC! Oh, honey, I can relate… as we all can… even the ones on here that are preggo or have went on to have children. We all have been here. Hang in there! Vent away… this is a hard process!!!