I just want to throw this out there - I realize that everyone has different reasons for choosing their specific adoption path whether through foster/state programs, private domestic infant, international, etc… I think that all pathways are wonderful and that people come to the decision that will work best for their own family.
I just wondered if given that you are open to African adoption, whether you had thought about adopting an African-American child domestically? Once approved, your wait for an infant or young toddler could likely be very short (our agency could have placed us within a week if the situation had been right for us). My friend had a great experience with such a situation, and she has a closed domestic adoption. If you are more comfortable with a closed adoption, these situations do exist domestically. I just wished to put this out there - ultimately doing what your heart feels called to do and what you are both comfortable with is what is in the best interest of your family and future child. I just know that you are ready to be a mom!
My husband was very interested in toddler adoption too; for him, he thought we could just skip the no sleep part and go to the fun playing part! (Not to suggest that it’s really so easy for a toddler to accommodate to a new environment, but I could understand his point of view!) Best wishes as always!