In desperate need of advice. I’m going nuts. DH and I opted not to do a baby shower. We’re not doing one for a couple of reasons. We live very far from all our family and friends…they’re all out state. The only people here are DH’s colleagues. So we felt that it’s probably better to skip the whole baby shower. Plus, it’s not likely that our friends and family travel the distance for the baby shower. So we did decided to do an arrival shower or a meet & sip kind of thing. That way, if anyone that does make the trip, at least gets to meet the baby too.
My sister is due in Jan and had her baby shower back in Nov. And she’s been pushing me to also have a baby shower. She’s actually upset with me that I am not doing a baby shower.
A few of my friends who recently gave birth insists on the baby shower especially for the first born. They said registering for the baby really helped them out. The one thing they strongly insisted was that I should still put up a registry right now. That way, friends who want to get something for the baby when you announce the arrival of the baby, can go on the registry. And by the time the arrival shower comes along, the registry is still up for anyone who is attending or not attending, but want to give the baby something. If there’s no registry, people will just randomly shop for your baby and I’ll end up with a bunch of baby clothes that won’t the baby or a bunch of baby blankets and such, which will not be useful. I wasn’t going to register originally because I wasn’t doing a baby shower. Plus, I’d have most of the essentials by the time the baby is here. So what would I even register for if I’m doing an arrival shower!?! But after hearing them say this, I’m torn. I don’t want to be tacky.
This is all becoming all so stressful and overwhelming. I’m still learning the ropes of being pregnant! I’ve just begun to research strollers, cribs, mattresses, and car seats! There’s just so much to prepare and learn. And now, the whole shower thing.
Any advice ladies? It would really help me out. Should I still put up a registry? I’m definitely having a party after the baby comes. If I put up a registry, what should I even register for?