I have just started my FET cycle after the tragic loss of our little boy in June due to pre-term labour. I am trying to be very positive about this cycle, especially since my last fresh IVF cycle did work. However, I am having a very hard time thinking positively. Mostly I have been having a very hard time not worrying.
When I was in therapy after Sebastian’s death, I was terribly worried about returning to work. My therapist gave me these words of support that really helped, “Worry is trying to take control of something you can’t contorl.” So I am trying to apply that same thinking to my FET cycle. But I am finding it very difficult.
Has anyone read any good books or listened to any speakers who have some good advice on how to not worry and how to think positive? I am looking for actionable advice that I can put into practice, not “The Secret” type stuff that really only says “If you build it, they will come.” (Field of Dreams anyone?)
Mostly I am just looking to boost my spirits a bit so that I can have a comfy place for my defrosted eggies to get settled in and grow.
Any and all suggestions welcome.