We’ve done 2 IUIs now with donor sperm. The first round, the sperm count was on the low side- second time it was abysmally low. We have 4 more vials on hand at our REs office, and 2 more in storage with the bank (we really liked this donor). Despite this, we’ve made the decision to switch donors, on our doctor’s advice.
We’d like to choose our new donor from the same bank, The Sperm Bank of CA, as they’ve provided great customer service and we like their family size limit. However, the two donors we’ve narrowed things down to don’t really stand out to us.
So what we’re trying to decide is how important it is to feel a ‘connection’ to the donor. With our first donor, we both liked how he represented himself, how open and honest he seemed, etc. We’re note getting as good a “vibe” about his two potential replacements. We realize that we may never meet the donor, and that if we do it would be at our child’s behest 19 or more years from now! But we do intend on having all of the info we have about the donor available to the child, so we’d like him to at least reflect some of the values and interests that we have.
For those of you that have changed donors, did your standards for the donor (in terms of personality, appearance, etc) change when you started looking for someone else? Was it difficult for you to move on from your first donor?