[quote=Omegagirl]Most of the talk there was about lining and specific cycling issues-women who have already begun the process, that’s all…
For those who aren’t sure what their next step is, I just thought we could chat about it someplace where we aren’t poking in and talking about our issues/fears on moving to DE with people who are mid cycle.
No diss to that thread, didn’t even know it existed actually… I’ll read more over there and see how it feels
I understand where you are coming from. I “joined” the group towards the end of July when our doc told us that our best chance of having the family we desired would be with donor eggs. I was NOT ready to make that decision at that point, but was interested in learning more about the process.
I posted honestly about my intents to try one more OE IVF. The ladies on the thread were 100% supportive of my efforts/feelings and continued to support me way more than my “IVF October board” ladies did! When it failed before the ER, they were my best supports then as well. (Can’t say much support was given on the other board…)
Even before I committed to DE, I felt more of a “part” of the DE thread than I ever did on the IVF threads. These ladies WILL welcome you, but you have to contribute to the thread! I doubt I would ever have accepted the DE fate were it not for the ladies on the DE thread. They “led” me in that direction with their joy and perserverance in their own struggles…NOT with pushy posts.
Please join. I’m one of 3 or 4 30-somethings on the boards. I think I am the only one with a normal FSH and normal AMH. I ovulate and I’m free of tubal issues, PCOS, endometriosis, etc. Heck…I’m supposed to be “normal!” In most ways…I just don’t fit into the group. Yet, somehow, I do! I even consider many of these ladies my friends and am having dinner with them over the Christmas holidays!
Making the decision for DE is sheer torture…and I have struggled for several months. Only now that I’m in my mock-cycle am I actually “ok” with moving forward. It’s a HARD process (especially when papers say I’m good…but egg response differs in opinion)! In the end though (once the hormones and emotions settled down), my decision was really simple… Do I want a baby with my genes at the expense of my career and everything I’ve ever worked towards (odds of pregnancy even at CCRM were “poor” and “expect 2-3 cycles to have any hope”)…OR…Do I want a baby/family ASAP? I chose the later and since I did…I have a tremendous amount of peace. (Yes, I still question things at times…but I’m not turning back now.) Obviously, my husband supported me in whatever decision I made.
Best wishes on your decisions and please join in on the other thread!