I feel guilty for even posting this…
Curious if anyone else out there has a DH that does not help much with the care of their child. We both work full time but I pretty much do all of the parenting (along with the cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping).
Excuses I get from DH are that he is super stressed and tired from his job and just needs to unwind (in front of the computer playing video games or surfing the net).
I do have to confess that I was the one who pushed super hard for DD - we would have stopped after IVF #2 if we had his way. But I pushed and pushed (which strained our own relationship). We went to see a counselor while I was pregnant and that helped.
DH does say that DD is the best thing that has ever happened to him (but then doesn’t want to pull his weight). She definitely lights up his world. Every day he says how lucky we are that we got DD.
We have a wonderful, sweet, beautiful DD so it isn’t like she is a terror! Not yet at least… the twos are coming. She is fantastic! Not sure how to motivate him to help out with DD more. At this point I am getter very bitter and resentful. I am pretty much a single parent.
Because I am doing almost all of the parenting (and working full time) that I don’t get out much anymore to do things with friends, work out or even go on a date night with DH. Just having a pity party right now… tired, hurt, and sad. Some days I just don’t even think that I can make it through the day since there is so much to do (and no help). I think this family unit is doomed if we don’t change soon.
Suggestions on getting DH more involved with parenting?