Sorry if this is long but having a rough time of it at the moment. (I joined here last year but haven’t been on much as really struggling with my emotions).
We are still trying for number two after more than two years and many treatment cycles. I was 36 when we started and I’m now almost 39…so disappointing.
Anyway, we finally did our first IVF last year and after being told I would be lucky to get even two eggs with my low AMH we got 9 and 8 fertilized. On day 3 we still had all 8 but by day 5 they had discarded five of them and left us with three. One was transfered and didn’t implant and we are putting the last two back next week, though I’m not holding my breath.
My question is WHY would they discard any when it was such a trial to get them in the first place? Apparently they were all healthy but they decided that five wouldn’t freeze well. But no one asked US what we wanted and if they had, we would have said to freeze them all on day 3. Instead, when my husband quizzed the embryologist about how they decide this, she just said “it’s up to me” as though she was God or something!
My husband is still furious and they are refusing to give us any answers other than they only transfer day 5 embryos. This seems ridiculous if they don’t make it to day 5. Everything I’ve read suggests they can’t judge an embryo by how well it grows and a day 3 fragmented embryo can still become a baby.
I’m so cross with this clinic that I am actually dreading my upcoming transfer because I can’t help feeling that they threw my chances of pregnancy away and I just have a gut feeling this won’t work again. I’m actually suspicious they don’t want it to work!
So has anyone else encountered this before? Should I change clinics? I’m in Australia, if that helps.