[QUOTE=kashiruvana]There are two sides of this. First of all, The Secret tells people that they can make something happen with their thoughts (positive or negative), and this is simply not true. Your thoughts are different from your emotions, so the closest, physiologically, you can get to what The Secret talks about is that your thoughts have some effect on your emotions which have, honestly, a negligible effect on your actual overall health until you’re talking about things like major depression. The problem with The Secret is that it makes people feel like it’s their fault for thinking any negative thought at all when something doesn’t happen the way they hoped, when in fact, their thoughts had no effect whatsoever. All you’ll do is make yourself more anxious trying to prevent yourself from having negative thoughts, which is extremely natural and WILL continue to happen. And that’s a good thing.
The other side of this, though, is that what you CAN control with your thoughts is your own happiness, which is worth it. I think people become so wrapped up in trying to control the external world with willpower (impossible) that they forget about controlling their internal world with willpower (eminently possible). Allow yourself negative thoughts, but when you have them, practice loving, patient thought habits toward yourself and try to guide yourself to a more positive line of thinking. That approach will absolutely have an effect (the effect of making you calmer and happier), and you believe that has a positive effect on your body’s fertility, then all the better. But do it for you, not for a baby, because you can actually drive yourself into depression and delusion that way, as I have seen often in people before.[/QUOTE]
Thanks for your complete comment. As I understand you mean that we shouldn’t ignore our negative thought and feeling since it is a part of our nature. But, don’t you think that negative thought can ruin the whole cycle? I mean for example if you transfer good embryo and doctors say that everything is perfect, but you think that it is impossible for you to get pregnant or you can not even dream positive result, then do you think with this negative thoughts you can destroy all doctors’s attempt and your body feel that you are not ready to accept the embryo… Hope you get the point. What do you think?