I am considering using DE as that is most likely my only way of conceiving at this point. I was reasonably certain that’s what I wanted to do until I just looked at the Donor Sibling Registry. After looking through there I’m stressed out! They offer so many testimonials about donor-conceived children who wanted to meet their donors, continuously referred to the donor parents as the biological parents, and the stories that “being loved and wanted just wasn’t enough for me” really have me second-guessing. There was even a woman who said she’s so glad she didn’t have donor-inseminated children when her husband became infertile.
I really like the idea of being able to carry a pregnancy and thought that would make me the biological mother, even without the genetic connection. So many of the stories on the DSR website made it sound as though the children yearn to find their donors and tended to refer to them as family. I don’t want to bring a child into the world who is going to hate me or feel as though he/she was short-changed. While I don’t have a problem disclosing the child’s origins to him/her, referring to the donor as family is a problem for me. I’m not sure if this means I would not be a good candidate for DE.
Anybody familiar with the website? Any thoughts?