:flower:Hi all- I know this is a long shot but after losing my opportunity to have kids with 2 diff men, I am going to pursue this. 1) does anyone know where to go and if it is affordable? 2) can you choose the ethnicity? Sorry to be so un-informed, I have emailed countless agencies in the US and overseas and 54 is not accepted. Thanks so very much
Honestly I don’t know that you will be able to find a clinic willing to work with you at 54. I’m sorry. Maybe the ladies at the over 40 board have more advice. I think there is a famous one in Colorado that specializes in older mothers but not sure exactly what they are willing to do. I know it sucks to hear but at a certain point maybe adoption really is the best option.
Try the donor egg board. It is almost obsolete since the changes on this board, but someone left over there might know. I know there was someone in Califronia that transferred at 56 or 58. I believe it was in San Diego. However, most clinics will not do anything once you hit 51. I would try the donor egg and over 40 boards and see if anyone there knows. Good luck!
I am 46 and just went through my 2nd successful cycle with them. Good luck.
Just wanted to throw it out there, but if transferring/carrying yourself is met with too much resistance, would gestational or traditional surrogacy be an option you’d consider? I say this because adoption is actually not the panacea people think it is. Agencies also have age restrictions, and if a newborn is your hope, private/independent adoption is the way to go if it is legal in your area. I don’t even want to suggest foster to adopt, as that can be a lengthy shot in the dark.