I have been trying to conceive since 2010. We decided and went ahead to do our first IUI and IVF in 2012 because the doctors couldn’t diagnose the cause of my infertility. I had 5 embryos and 3 were transferred and 2 were frozen. All efforts failed.
I even tried TCM for about 6 months. Sometimes I can be overwhelmed by my own failed attempts and I would confide in my closest circle of friends. One of my galfriends who claimed she wasn’t interested to get pregnant, tagged along with me to my TCM appointment and even consulted the same doctor and now she is pregnant.
I am happy for her but at the same time I feel sad for myself. Now all she could ever talked about is her own pregnancy. We used to talk about everything and she knew that I was trying to conceive for a long time and as much as I am happy for her, I sometimes wish that she could be more considerate to my feelings.
Am I raining on her parade?
Nowaways, she hardly even contacts me at all. I introduced her to a group of mothers to be and since then she has been hanging out with them.
Recently one of my other girlfriends gave birth and some of my girlfriends asked me to visit her, and they told me that she was going too. I was disappointed that she didn’t even bother to ask me to join her. When I saw her at the gathering, she just ignored me. I thought we were friends?
I have 8 girlfriends, 7 of them are either pregnant or just gave birth. Including myself, there are just 2 of us TTC now. I am pretty sure that she will soon be pregnant. To be honest, I am feeling the peer pressure now. Probably even more because I am almost 40 years old and they are still in their mid or early 30s.
To be honest, I never thought of disassociating myself from them although I read in the internet that some ladies do that. These are my friends and if I were to cut away from them, I might lose their friendship. I am not even sure whether they value my friendship the same way I do.
Is Anyone feeling the peer pressure, too?