Oh Gigi, I just had some time to get caught up on the July/August thread and heard your news. I thought maybe it was better just to post here in this thread. I don’t believe in telling people comforting lies, but fortunately in your case, I don’t have to. You had a good run your first IVF cycle. You had 2 perfect blasts, and the second cycle is pretty much always better than the first. In a competent clinic, your RE is able to learn from the lessons of your first cycle and adjust the process to give you a better chance next time.
With our first cycle, we experienced something very similar to you and your husband. We got a positive, but it didn’t last for very long. And yes, we let our minds wander carelessly, too, even though we knew there might be a miscarriage. For the first few days after, my wife was insistent that we were done, even though I wanted to keep going for as long as we could. Seeing all that money purchase nothing but grief and sadness was overwhelming for both of us, but more so for her since her job is very stressful. But she changed her mind after a few weeks, just like I’m confident your husband will. I suspect this episode will make him miss children in his life ever more, and it will sharpen his resolve.
I hope you try again, but not because I believe in miracles— if you needed a miracle, I’d tell you to throw in the towel. Your odds are still very good at this point, all you need is grit and perseverance.