Okay so this is pretty embarrassing, but I’m feeling so sad and neglected by my husband. We have only had sex a handful of times since I got pregnant with twins nearly 33 weeks ago. We tried to conceive for years and during that time he was always saying to me, “I hope you don’t think I’m strange or anything, but you are going to be the most beautiful pregnant women someday and I won’'t be able to keep my hands off of you!” Now that I am…whole different story. Now granted, I started with severe OHSS in the beginning that really put a screeching halt to any intimacy, but after that I was ok. I was on modified best rest most of my 1st tri, back to work almost all of my 2nd and the beginning of my 3rd and I’m back home now till the babies come.
I love feeling close to him and bonding in that way, but I pretty much have to beg at this point which hurts. My body certainly isn’t itself but it isn’t ugly either I’m suffering with a lot of aches and pains plus terrible restless leg syndrome. Honestly sex and especially orgasms really help curb all my discomforts. I joked tonight that we were going to “do it” tonight whether he liked it or not. Before bed he climbed in and got me off manually, in a very mechanical “get me off his case” way. It took me forever to get there because I felt like a small step up from housework, not connected with him at all I thought afterwards we would still have sex… he said “no that’s ok I’m good.” He said I could hardly roll over in bed without discomfort, how on earth was I going to attempt sex with him??
He claims he is terrified of hurting me or the babies and he would never forgive himself, but even through the worst I have never been put on pelvic rest. He is wonderful in every other department except this one. Our relationship lately feels like a NON-marital family member one. He is my care taker thats all.
I know what you might be thinking and no…I know he’s not cheating, he works constantly and one of my good friends works with him, he’s always there. I have never been suspect of his whereabouts once. Apparently he has only even masturbated once or twice since that famous day in our RE’s office to make our LO’s. He states he’s in business “care taker” mode and is not at all motivated sexually. He is too focused on everything else.
I know I should be more understanding I’m just SO lonely all day and feeling so unattractive. I miss him so much I could cry! Once the twins are born it’s only going to get far worse for both of us for a long time Maybe I’m being selfish but I’m really down about this I want our old sex life back!!! Just want to feel pretty, desired and attended to again…
Sorry for the long post and TMI…can anyone relate??