My DH and I are at the stage where we are visiting RE’s to get info on treatment options. He had a vasectomy 20+ years ago…so we aren’t sure if he’ll be a viable sperm source, or if we’ll use a donor. We’re still trying to save as much as we can for whatever procedure is recommended, but roadblocks keep coming up. I’m mentally exhausted from trying to figure out how we’ll save enough to pay for the procedure alone.
My sis married my DH’s best friend, and combining their families gave them 4 kids. She quit her job 2 weeks before they got married, saying she wanted to find another job closer to home (she was driving 45 mins 1 way each day to work. That was 9 months ago. So far, she hasn’t looked or gotten another job (every job lead/interview I’ve sent her has been shot down for petty reasons). They are struggling to make ends meet, to the point my nephews were wearing shoes that the soles were falling off. One nephews shoes were so old he literally walked a hole through the bottom of them. My DH and I have purchased new shoes, socks, undies, etc for all the kids, because they were all falling apart. These are neccessities, not luxuries.
Sis has been my biggest confidant, and 3 months after they got married, called to tell me she was pregnant. Then she tried saying it wasn’t planned, that she may not be able to carry to term, etc. I must admit, the only reaction I could muster before I lost my mind that night was to hang up on her. I just couldn’t process what she was telling me. I still struggle. We don’t have much of a relationship, we don’t talk much at all, and I still break down at least once a week when my DH isn’t around.
I desperately want to have a child with my husband, whether its his biologically or not. Sis’s due date is around my DH’s birthday. The farther she goes into this pregnancy, the more bitter and hurt I become. I’m excited about the baby and I’m happy for them, but I’m also hurt and bitter. I’ve tried talking to her, and it turns into a stand-off, because I’m just supposed to get over it. I wish it was that easy. I don’t want to write off my relationship with her…but maybe its what needs to be done, if only to salvage my own emotional stability? Looking for advice from others…I’m too far in to be able to see clearly. Help!:grr: