Having a baby after hystectomy


#41

@ladybird345

Can you please tell me, don’t you feel awkward and a bit of ashamed when you write your manager too often and without any proper purpose… but you cannot make yourself shut up and not try to contact your manager and ask her about everything that makes you nervous and all of the changes your body is going through… even now I write to my manager as she told me that our communication can continue after 12 weeks are passed. so she is waiting for my updates and oh boy am I loving sending them to her :slight_smile:


#42

[QUOTE=“Gwineth, post: 1870406, member: 87471”]you are right
I should try more and with time I feel like I am getting calmer and calmer with every day of the pregnancy and my journey begins to come in all of the different and bright colors :slight_smile:
I am totes with you and I think that I should care more about the beautiful little miracle that is the best thing in my life __
I hope for the best![/QUOTE]
You are totally right! I hope that both of your babies grow healthy and beautiful! As what can be more important than this? :slight_smile:


#43

[QUOTE=“ladybird345, post: 1870620, member: 87389”]I’ve just joined this thread and it seems like I missed a lot, a whole journey of your treatment.
I’m curious how are you know, as I see you have already got your 16 weeks’ scan, right? Can you tell me how it looks like oh and I suppose you already got 20 and more weeks’ scan, am I right?
We also have opted for a treatment in ukraine, probably the clinic as you . I want to share my happy news we are waiting for our first scan. It is supposed to be today in a few hours… I might sound crazy but I have already wrote my manager, feeling nervous, can’t stand waiting.

It would be nice if you share your updates[/QUOTE]
It is 27 th week already! And we are thrilled of what is going to be coming in the future! I have experienced a lot of changes, my dh and I have been planning our life post surrogacy I now find all of the articles on surrogacy even more useful to read as they are full of information necessary for those who are either starting, in the middle of the process or even finishing with surrogacy!

We still are not sure of the gender of our baby! Our doctor told us that it can be a boy but she is not 100 percent sure! However, I have mentioned before we are also thinking that it may be a boy, but who knows! Life is full of surprises! We won’t be disappointed if it is a girl either but it would be so great to know for sure! :3

PS Den is expecting a brother for himself haha not surprised at all!

xoxo


#44

You are right Agnete! Nothing can be more important than the health of your kids!
I am very happy that you are doing ok! :slight_smile:
Having a brother or a sister does not really matter if they are brought up in a healthy and loving family!
Good luck! Waiting for more updates!
PS it is a shame that you almost quit posting here!


#45

[QUOTE=“Agnete, post: 1870646, member: 87055”]It is 27 th week already! And we are thrilled of what is going to be coming in the future! I have experienced a lot of changes, my dh and I have been planning our life post surrogacy I now find all of the articles on surrogacy even more useful to read as they are full of information necessary for those who are either starting, in the middle of the process or even finishing with surrogacy!

We still are not sure of the gender of our baby! Our doctor told us that it can be a boy but she is not 100 percent sure! However, I have mentioned before we are also thinking that it may be a boy, but who knows! Life is full of surprises! We won’t be disappointed if it is a girl either but it would be so great to know for sure! :3

PS Den is expecting a brother for himself haha not surprised at all!

xoxo[/QUOTE]
He wants to have a brother! How cute! Awwwww! :):slight_smile:
Oh you are doing right by reading all kinds of articles and trying to maybe figure out all kind of new things for both of you! I was doing the same when my surrogate was pregnant! However, Life itself was full of surprises for us and we could not even imagine that our lives will change that much! :slight_smile:
Oh well, this is a normal practice that sometimes you just cannot be sure about the gender of your baby! It is good that you do not worry a lot about this and still feel positive and full of hopes!:wink:


#46

You know what In have seen lots of people that do not even know what to do with their kids when they have them born. I am not even joking, I was talking to one couple once on a forum (not this one) and they were also expecting a child from their surrogate and guess what they knew nothing about how to treat the newborn and they haven’t even asked anyone. like how can someone be that irresponsible??


#47

Oh well… not everyone has the same background as others, it is hard to tell whether you know everything or not and it may also surprise you that maybe there is still something you are unfamiliar with. and those people could’ve thought that they also are very experienced in life and not knowing what to do with a child when it is their first kid it is ok. even by reading books about everything related to babies and pregnancy, it is still hard to tell how it all will turn out.
and even though I am not particularly the one to encourage such behavior, I think that it is always better to form a fuller picture to have the right to criticize another person.


#48

[QUOTE=“Agnete, post: 1870646, member: 87055”]It is 27 th week already! And we are thrilled of what is going to be coming in the future! I have experienced a lot of changes, my dh and I have been planning our life post surrogacy I now find all of the articles on surrogacy even more useful to read as they are full of information necessary for those who are either starting, in the middle of the process or even finishing with surrogacy!

We still are not sure of the gender of our baby! Our doctor told us that it can be a boy but she is not 100 percent sure! However, I have mentioned before we are also thinking that it may be a boy, but who knows! Life is full of surprises! We won’t be disappointed if it is a girl either but it would be so great to know for sure! :3

PS Den is expecting a brother for himself haha not surprised at all!

xoxo[/QUOTE]
oh nice, I’m glad you are happy and feel satisfied with your life and conditions. Pregnancy is amazing thing. I’m also pregnant, we’ve got our first ultrasound and we are happy y say that babies are healthy and their measurements are in order.
I still don’t know whom we will have but it’s ok with me. I just hope my babies born without any problems.
We really wanted to see our surrogate but our clinic told it would be possible after pregnancy reaches 12 weeks. It is going to be soon; I believe we would have a chance to come there.


#49

[QUOTE=“Gwineth, post: 1870627, member: 87471”]@ladybird345

Can you please tell me, don’t you feel awkward and a bit of ashamed when you write your manager too often and without any proper purpose… but you cannot make yourself shut up and not try to contact your manager and ask her about everything that makes you nervous and all of the changes your body is going through… even now I write to my manager as she told me that our communication can continue after 12 weeks are passed. so she is waiting for my updates and oh boy am I loving sending them to her :)[/QUOTE]
Sorry I didn’t see your reply,
sometimes I feel confused with this forum, I can’t find other people’s answers, anyway, that’s great you are fine and continue to be positive about ending your program with the clinic.
As for your question, honestly, I can’t stop myself from writing stupid questions, I guess it’s because I didn’t face this issue before and I am in need to have some support from a woman who is a professional in this field. Thanks God, she is nice and answers my questions, not immediately because she is too busy with other clients who are like me need her all the time writing updates. Maybe I’m too noisy and a bit imprudent nevertheless, I need to know what is going on there


#50

[QUOTE=“ladybird345, post: 1870672, member: 87389”]Sorry I didn’t see your reply,
sometimes I feel confused with this forum, I can’t find other people’s answers, anyway, that’s great you are fine and continue to be positive about ending your program with the clinic.
As for your question, honestly, I can’t stop myself from writing stupid questions, I guess it’s because I didn’t face this issue before and I am in need to have some support from a woman who is a professional in this field. Thanks God, she is nice and answers my questions, not immediately because she is too busy with other clients who are like me need her all the time writing updates. Maybe I’m too noisy and a bit imprudent nevertheless, I need to know what is going on there[/QUOTE]
I hope that you did not think that I was shaming you or something, I just reread my comment and it felt so awkward… I really think that it is normal to communicate with you manager and such, however, I personally feel somehow ashamed of my attention seeking nature. I know that those managers in biotex are really good trained and know a lot so I just cannot keep myself away from sending them letters and asking them million and million questions about my personal issues. however, I know that they are not doctors and that they are constantly asking my questions their doctors so it is as if I went to a specialist in my area but I do not want to open up to other people as I have Yarina…


#51

[QUOTE=“Kim79, post: 1870655, member: 87054”]Oh well… not everyone has the same background as others, it is hard to tell whether you know everything or not and it may also surprise you that maybe there is still something you are unfamiliar with. and those people could’ve thought that they also are very experienced in life and not knowing what to do with a child when it is their first kid it is ok. even by reading books about everything related to babies and pregnancy, it is still hard to tell how it all will turn out.
and even though I am not particularly the one to encourage such behavior, I think that it is always better to form a fuller picture to have the right to criticize another person.[/QUOTE]
Do you really think that it is okay to not know anything about kids and babies care? It is kind of re**rded in my opinion, I am sorry but if you opt for any type of fertility treatment you should at least try and read or watch tutorials about how to take care of your child and what to do with a baby. which will be enough for the first days when you see your child and then to watch how nurses or someone who has the experiences feeds a child and changes the diapers or something. is it that hard???


#52

Sorry, but what I think is that we should not judge anyone before we know them closely. I personally do not know anyone who could be that ignorant but I feel like we should not expect others to have the same knowledge level as we do. it is just impossible.
I get that there can be people like this. But I believe that they can figure out to ask the specialist or something.


#53

haha, I see but don’t you think you bother her too much? Yes, my situation is the same and I’m trying not to bother my manager but it’s really hard. I don’t know how other people could stay away from asking the manager. I suppose it is to be wrong, I suppose every mother wants to know what is going on with her baby, don’t you agree with me??
I’m so happy right now, they have confirmed our surrogate is pregnant with twins and I’m over the moon. Can’t wait to see them one more time, we were told that next time we would be able to see our surrogate.
what about you? I have already asked this question on different thread.


#54

[QUOTE=“Kim79, post: 1870684, member: 87054”]Sorry, but what I think is that we should not judge anyone before we know them closely. I personally do not know anyone who could be that ignorant but I feel like we should not expect others to have the same knowledge level as we do. it is just impossible.
I get that there can be people like this. But I believe that they can figure out to ask the specialist or something.[/QUOTE]
I really hope that they get some help. as isn’t it vital to know at least something about children care??
I was thinking that it’d be awesome if fertility clinics were offering something of the sort, you know? like parenting courses for those who are in the middle of the process of getting pregnant or waiting for kids to be born. Biotexcom at least has managers who know what they are doing and are quite qualified so I feel like they can consult you on anything you are interested in, but not all of the clinics are the same.


#55

[QUOTE=“ladybird345, post: 1870686, member: 87389”]haha, I see but don’t you think you bother her too much? Yes, my situation is the same and I’m trying not to bother my manager but it’s really hard. I don’t know how other people could stay away from asking the manager. I suppose it is to be wrong, I suppose every mother wants to know what is going on with her baby, don’t you agree with me??
I’m so happy right now, they have confirmed our surrogate is pregnant with twins and I’m over the moon. Can’t wait to see them one more time, we were told that next time we would be able to see our surrogate.
what about you? I have already asked this question on different thread.[/QUOTE]
My manager often writes me first and asks me how am I? :slight_smile: This is so sweet of her, but it makes me think that maybe it is only due to their culture or something, as I haven’t encountered anything of the sort in the US. maybe it is only Ukrainian thing? Like they are really welcoming and lovely nation, from my impressions.


#56

[QUOTE=“Gwineth, post: 1870690, member: 87471”]I really hope that they get some help. as isn’t it vital to know at least something about children care??
I was thinking that it’d be awesome if fertility clinics were offering something of the sort, you know? like parenting courses for those who are in the middle of the process of getting pregnant or waiting for kids to be born. Biotexcom at least has managers who know what they are doing and are quite qualified so I feel like they can consult you on anything you are interested in, but not all of the clinics are the same.[/QUOTE]
I do not argue with you that this is vital, educating yourself about how to treat newborns and what to do basically with them, how to feed them, how to carry them, what clothes to choose for them in summer for example. I think that this is really important to have an idea of what newborn care is or should be.

However, as I have said you are not supposed to critique anyone else because they did not have a chance of reading or asking about what kind of newborn care they should learn or something.

And I think that fertility clinics have enough of work to not waste their time and professionalism on the parenthood courses, especially when such courses are available in every single country and even on youtube. But as you have said, managers can be a source of general information about babies and their essential needs.

xx


#57

I have noticed this too, but I thought it was because of her job.
Anyway, I didn’t see rude people at clinic what made me think they are friendly as well. Probably I have mentioned this before, but my first consultation was great, nice manager, doctors, nurses, a proper interpreter services, even food and accommodation. I suppose it worth all time spending there. Can’t stand to get one more scan. It’s is going to be very soon.


#58

[QUOTE=“Kim79, post: 1870692, member: 87054”]I do not argue with you that this is vital, educating yourself about how to treat newborns and what to do basically with them, how to feed them, how to carry them, what clothes to choose for them in summer for example. I think that this is really important to have an idea of what newborn care is or should be.

However, as I have said you are not supposed to critique anyone else because they did not have a chance of reading or asking about what kind of newborn care they should learn or something.

And I think that fertility clinics have enough of work to not waste their time and professionalism on the parenthood courses, especially when such courses are available in every single country and even on youtube. But as you have said, managers can be a source of general information about babies and their essential needs.

xx[/QUOTE]
I kind of agree with you but this is very important and as we both agree about it. I still think that brochures are a great idea, some instructions on what to do for the first couple of weeks when you only get your child, how to feed the baby, how to wash her. everything is vital and cannot be neglected.


#59

I believe surrogacy is your only way out now. Hysterectomy is among the list of the requirements for surrogacy. I’m sorry for what you’ve had to face. That is heartbreaking. but you’re a brave worrior trying to achieve her aim. This makes differ. You don’t give up and try to find the right solution. Looking to get people’s experiences and advice in relation to fertility clinics…Which ones have they had great experiences or not so good experiences with. Trying to narrow down your search and not sure whether to go abroad or not. Looking at recommendations and prices a bit mind boggling. I know how it all feels! Not knowing where and how to start. We’re all here for you though. Ladies here are awesome. If you’re thinking about going abroad for treatment I can come with some pieces of advice. Feel free to ask. All the best!


#60

Bio tex com is doing its job just right! IP can use the benefits of their emergency 24/7 helpline. Not coordinators, who may not answer in the middle of the night -lol. But answers expected from their English speaking pediatritian. IP can also provide exact instructions to housekeeping staff and babysitter to get the things orginized the way they want. Sometimes IP happen to arrange the things to be finished exactly by the day of delivery indicated in the ultrasound check. But this might be a huge mistake as there’s no supposition that it might be premature deliver. Or normal delivery but on the 36th or 38th week. The clinic offers special classes for new parents. They also recommend visiting those classed while IP are at home. (To avoid the episodes when IP come to the clinic and get ‘‘scared’’ of their babies). They care about their patients during all the treatment stages. Always open about all the troubles they may face and kindly help through if any. I should say all their services are well thought out. Taking into consideration everyone’s interests. Special thanks to the nurses though. We got to know about plently of useful things from them. And all the kind staff who helped us to get our sweet girl. Be blessed always.