Hi, I'm an old member and I'm back


#1

Hi everyone. I was a member back when we were TTC our daughter who is 2.5 now. She was conceived through donor sperm and natural unmedicated IUI. I had a miscarriage before she was born. After she was born, we tried a second vas-reversal on my husband. That worked just long enough for me to get pregnant and miscarry and then for me to get pregnant with our son who is our naturally conceived biological son. He’s 9 months old. Now, my husband’s vas reversal has scarred over again…so we are back to donor sperm. We tried three unmedicated cycles with donor sperm, no dice. We just tried our first with 50mg of clomid. I had three good follicles, did the trigger shot, insemination…and it looks like i’m starting my period today. I know I am blessed to have two kiddos and I know so many people have heartbreaking stories and I DO feel lucky, but sometimes I just get so frustrated. It’s so expensive and I’m still mourning the fact that my husband’s vas reversal scarred over again. I really thought when we conceived our son that his reversal would stick and we would be DONE with all of this scientific stuff, and we’d be able to get pregnant like “Regular” people, if you know what I mean. But instead, we’re back to spending 500 dollars a vial on donor sperm and now i’m using medication which ive never done before. I just want to finish creating our family and I’m just feeling sad today. Thanks for listening.


#2

[QUOTE=“booboo9595, post: 1789103, member: 61019”]I know I am blessed to have two kiddos and I know so many people have heartbreaking stories and I DO feel lucky, but sometimes I just get so frustrated. It’s so expensive and I’m still mourning the fact that my husband’s vas reversal scarred over again. I really thought when we conceived our son that his reversal would stick and we would be DONE with all of this scientific stuff, and we’d be able to get pregnant like “Regular” people, if you know what I mean. But instead, we’re back to spending 500 dollars a vial on donor sperm and now i’m using medication which ive never done before. I just want to finish creating our family and I’m just feeling sad today. Thanks for listening.[/QUOTE]
Hi booboo9595,

So glad you are back! I’m a new administrator since you were here a few years back. My husband and I also wish we could conceive like “regular people”, but are hopeful with a new RE specialist we’ll be starting with soon. Don’t feel ungrateful for being frustrated and wanting more than 2. You know what your family needs and desires :slight_smile: I hope it happens soon for you! I also hope you feel supported here and know that you are not alone. [GALLERY=media, 116]You are not alone. by admin posted Nov 21, 2014 at 10:34 AM[/GALLERY]


#3

Hi booboo9595! I’m also an old member who is back and trying for our second IUI baby, our first was born 4/13. We just had our second IUI (2/15 failed) for baby #2. Praying that it works this time. I completely understand your frustration and I have also felt the same way that I wish I could just make a baby like a regular person. It’s hard, especially having friends with multiple children and I’m fearful I won’t be able to give my daughter a sibling. Praying for you and sending sticky vibes and baby dust your way!


#4

Thanks so much. It means a lot to know other people understand. My fingers are crossed for you!


#5

Hello, I’m also an old member and back again. I really wish that more would come back to this forum. Anyways, my husband and I also used a donor to conceive our now 3.5 year old daughter due to two failed vasectomy reversals. That’s really great that your husband’s last surgery worked and you were able to naturally conceive your son! It’s too bad that the scarring happened. It does stink to not be able to conceive normally like most couples but I’m also very thankful to have the option of using a donor too. I hear you about the costs of the donor sperm vials though! Thankfully we saved up and bought multiple vials of our daughter’s donor’s vials up front because we wanted to make sure that we could use the same donor for all of our children. As it turned out, we conceived her on our first IUI with his vials :). We bought a two more vials to add to storage last year just to be safe since we found out that our donor was retiring. We were planning on three kids but now it seems that we are thinking that we will be happy if we can just have one more. I have my consult appointment in about a month and hopefully we’ll be able to try our first IUI trying for baby #2 in June. How are things going for you? Are you doing another IUI soon? I hope that you have success very soon and get the third baby that you desire!

P.S. We used Femara instead of Clomid for our IUI. Maybe if the Clomid isn’t working, you could ask your doctor about switching to Femara to see if that works better.


#6

[QUOTE=“maria_79, post: 1789605, member: 36954”]Hello, I’m also an old member and back again. I really wish that more would come back to this forum. Anyways, my husband and I also used a donor to conceive our now 3.5 year old daughter due to two failed vasectomy reversals. That’s really great that your husband’s last surgery worked and you were able to naturally conceive your son! It’s too bad that the scarring happened. It does stink to not be able to conceive normally like most couples but I’m also very thankful to have the option of using a donor too. I hear you about the costs of the donor sperm vials though! Thankfully we saved up and bought multiple vials of our daughter’s donor’s vials up front because we wanted to make sure that we could use the same donor for all of our children. As it turned out, we conceived her on our first IUI with his vials :). We bought a two more vials to add to storage last year just to be safe since we found out that our donor was retiring. We were planning on three kids but now it seems that we are thinking that we will be happy if we can just have one more. I have my consult appointment in about a month and hopefully we’ll be able to try our first IUI trying for baby #2 in June. How are things going for you? Are you doing another IUI soon? I hope that you have success very soon and get the third baby that you desire!

P.S. We used Femara instead of Clomid for our IUI. Maybe if the Clomid isn’t working, you could ask your doctor about switching to Femara to see if that works better.[/QUOTE]

Hi Maria_79!!

I agree, I wish more people would come back to the forum! It helped me so much while I was trying to conceive our daughter and it seemed so much more “busy” then. Hopefully more people will come on board again soon!

So exciting that you’re trying for number two! Also it’s awesome you were able to get so many vials of your donor. My daughter’s donor was at the end of his career when we chose him and I didn’t realize it. We bought his last 5 vials and needed all 5 tries to get it to work so our next child will be from a different donor! Good luck on your consult and let us know what you are told and when you can start trying again!

As for me, we are doing our third dIUI with 50 mg Clomid and HCG shot tomorrow morning! I had two follicles on the left that were over 20mm and nothing promising on the right, but he thought the ones on the left looked good. This will be our sixth try this cycle, third medicated. I have a consult with my RE next week (before i know if I’m pregnant or not) to talk about next steps. I don’t feel very good on the Clomid so I am going to ask about Femara and he even mentioned the possibilities of injectables. He also wants me to get an X-ray of my fallopian tubes if this round doesn’t work just to double check. I’m tired of TTC already even though I know lots of women go through a much longer process and stick it out. I am so thankful every day for the kids we’ve already had and it makes trying to conceive the third child a lot easier than it was for the first one. I hope you find the same thing to be true for you while TTC your #2. Something about already being a mother takes a little of the “pressure” off for me (but not that it’s not hard anyway!) Good luck and keep in touch so we can get these boards up and running again!


#7

Welcome back! Glad you are here :slight_smile: I hope more people find their way back too. How did you hear the forums were back? Was it the emails we sent, or did you check back at random. I know someone posted in their FB group. It would be great if everyone could spread the word :slight_smile:


#8

Honestly, I just checked back again when we decided to try to conceive number 3, and I was thrilled you were back! I’ll try to spread the word :wink:


#9

How did your IUI go booboo? did your donor’s swimmers were? I hope that everything went well and that you get your BFP this time! I understand how tiring and frustrating it must be to have gone through six IUIs already. Fingers crossed that this was your lucky cycle!

As for me, my consult appointment got pushed back to the end of May. I go to a small clinic and the doctor is having to fill in for a colleague and handle those extra patients so his fertility consult appointments have gotten scaled back. They said that the nurse might be able to get my scripts written for the meds, HSG, and CD3 blood work before my consult appointment though so I still might be able to do an IUI in June but there is a possibility that it might be July before we can try our first IUI for #2. I’m not too upset though because the more I think about it, I think that it might actually be better for me to wait that extra month to start trying because we are planning to take our DD to Disney World for a week in either October or November and I’m not sure I’d want to be too pregnant when we go. So our plan is to try IUIs June/July through September/October(depending on when we go to Disney) and then take the Christmas holiday months off if we haven’t conceived by then, then start back up at the beginning of 2016 until we’ve run out of vials. Hopefully that doesn’t happen but if it does then we’ll probably just accept it and be happy with our one little girl.


#10

Thanks for checking in on me Maria!

It seems as though the IUI went well. I’m exactly a week out from it now, so I should know pretty soon whether it worked or not. I talked to my doctor on Tuesday, and he said if this round doesn’t work (my third on Clomid) he wants to try me on Femara. I see that you are going to take it too, have you taken it before, or just Clomid? I don’t like how I feel on Clomid and he thinks if it doesn’t work after the third try it makes sense to give Femara a try. He wants me to schedule an HSG too if I don’t get pregnant soon. He mentioned injectables but said that is more of something we’ll keep on the back burner and he seems to think I won’t need them (I hope he’s right!). The donor’s numbers were fine, he had like 45 million sperm before the freezing and thawing and about 15 million post thaw. It always amazes me how many of them die in the process! That’s why we couldn’t freeze my husband’s sperm for IUI purposes even when he was ejaculating sperm, his sperm count was too low for a good amount to survive freezing. The sperm bank we use guarantees 5 million, but we’ve never had less than about 12 million which my RE is happy with.

I can understand how it could be frustrating to have the time you thought you’d start get pushed back—but it seems like pushing it back will work out for you anyway so I’m glad that you are ok with it! And Disney, how exciting! I want to take our kids too but I’m trying to wait until they’re a little older. My daughter doesn’t care much about it at this point, although I can see that is just starting to change, so maybe soon! Hopefully I have some good news to share soon!


#11

[QUOTE=“booboo9595, post: 1789702, member: 61019”]Thanks for checking in on me Maria!

It seems as though the IUI went well. I’m exactly a week out from it now, so I should know pretty soon whether it worked or not. I talked to my doctor on Tuesday, and he said if this round doesn’t work (my third on Clomid) he wants to try me on Femara. I see that you are going to take it too, have you taken it before, or just Clomid? I don’t like how I feel on Clomid and he thinks if it doesn’t work after the third try it makes sense to give Femara a try. He wants me to schedule an HSG too if I don’t get pregnant soon. He mentioned injectables but said that is more of something we’ll keep on the back burner and he seems to think I won’t need them (I hope he’s right!). The donor’s numbers were fine, he had like 45 million sperm before the freezing and thawing and about 15 million post thaw. It always amazes me how many of them die in the process! That’s why we couldn’t freeze my husband’s sperm for IUI purposes even when he was ejaculating sperm, his sperm count was too low for a good amount to survive freezing. The sperm bank we use guarantees 5 million, but we’ve never had less than about 12 million which my RE is happy with.

I can understand how it could be frustrating to have the time you thought you’d start get pushed back—but it seems like pushing it back will work out for you anyway so I’m glad that you are ok with it! And Disney, how exciting! I want to take our kids too but I’m trying to wait until they’re a little older. My daughter doesn’t care much about it at this point, although I can see that is just starting to change, so maybe soon! Hopefully I have some good news to share soon![/QUOTE]

Hi booboo, sorry for my delayed response. A few years before we bought multiple vials of our daughter’s donor we tried 2 IUIs with a different donor and used Clomid for both of those IUIs but neither worked. We ended up taking a few years off from TTC for various reasons but when we decided we were ready to try again we picked a new donor and I asked my doctor if I could take Femara instead of Clomid because I hated how Clomid made me feel. I also read that Clomid could thin your lining. Anyways, the Femara ended up being way better! I only had one emotional day while on it and no hot flashes or night sweats like I did on Clomid. My body obviously like Femara better and liked the new sperm donor better because we got our little girl from our first cycle using both!

How are you doing? Have you found out the results of your IUI? I’d love to hear an update! Sorry again for taking so long to respond! :frowning:


#12

NO problem! I just spend way too much time checking my email so I always see replies right away, haha. Unfortunately, last month was also BFN. I was/am really bummed. I’m on CD2 right now and I’m supposed to start Femara tomorrow. I’m going in next week for an HSG to make sure my tubes are clear (and to hopefully clear them out a little just with the dye anyway). We also decided to switch donors too! I really hope this next month is our month. i’m getting to that point where I’m starting to question if this will EVER happen for us again, you know? I hate getting into that place where I can’t be positive anymore. I’ll definitely keep you updated on what happens! :slight_smile:


#13

[QUOTE=“booboo9595, post: 1789826, member: 61019”]NO problem! I just spend way too much time checking my email so I always see replies right away, haha. Unfortunately, last month was also BFN. I was/am really bummed. I’m on CD2 right now and I’m supposed to start Femara tomorrow. I’m going in next week for an HSG to make sure my tubes are clear (and to hopefully clear them out a little just with the dye anyway). We also decided to switch donors too! I really hope this next month is our month. i’m getting to that point where I’m starting to question if this will EVER happen for us again, you know? I hate getting into that place where I can’t be positive anymore. I’ll definitely keep you updated on what happens! :)[/QUOTE]

I’m really sorry that your last IUI didn’t work! I would be super bummer out too. Hopefully the Femara and the new donor are just what you need to get your BFP! I also had and HSG on cycle day 8 in the cycle that I conceived our daughter so maybe it will also help your chances! How big of a dose of Femara are you taking? I took 5mg for 5 days starting on CD3.

As for me, I had my pap last week with the nurse that did my IUI that gave us our daughter. I had to bring her because my husband had to work. She was really happy to meet her! She ended up giving me the script to go get my cycle day 2/3 blood work done to check my FSH levels but said that she didn’t recommend me getting the HSG done again before trying this time. I have my appointment with the doctor in about 6 weeks and she said that he will go over my blood work and then should just write me a script for the Femara again that day so I can do and IUI in June if we want. She wasn’t sure if he would want me to come in for an early ultrasound or not to check my follie counts during my first IUI cycle. We’ll see I guess. Do you have this done each cycle? If we do try, and end up having success in June or July, we might hold off on the Disney trip until next fall(2016) because we really don’t want to wait any longer than we have to to TTC and I don’t think I’ll enjoy disney as much being more than 4 months pregnant. Plus I think I’ll be sad if I can’t ride certain rides with my daughter for the first time. We’ve been saving for this trip for a year and half so I’d rather wait and go when not pregnant. For me, I think that going with a baby will be better. It also gives us longer to save and maybe we can stay longer when we go. Anyways, I guess we’ll see. Please keep me posted on your cycle! I really hope that this is your lucky cycle!


#14

Aw that’s fun that you had the same nurse! I’ll always remember the name of the midwife who inseminated me the cycle we got pregnant with our daughter, haha. And I’ll always thank her!

Let me know how your blood work goes, fingers crossed that everything is still great! I’m glad you don’t have to do the HSG again, it seems sort of like a pain. I’ve actually never had one before. When we first started IUIs TTC our first child, I got pregnant the FIRST cycle. Then I miscarried. But because of that they didn’t think I needed one, and later we got pregnant with our daughter. Then, when we were TTC our son, we didn’t realize my husband’s second vas reversal was sort of working so we did another donor IUI, and I got pregnant again, first time! But then miscarried again! But I still could assume my tubes were clear, so no HSG. Then a few months later we naturally got pregnant with my son. So this is the first time that it has taken me many times to get pregnant at all, even though those first pregnancies never ended well unfortunately. Anyway, my doctor seems to think my tubes are probably fine, and I hope he’s right, but like they say clearing them out won’t hurt either way!

I do get my follies checked every medicated cycle, I never did it on the unmedicated cycle (which is probably obvious). The first cycle I had three follies, same with the second, and last cycle I had two decent sized ones. That’s why I am so disappointed it didnt work, it seemed like everything was in order! But I try to be positive and believe that we will get THE baby we were meant to have when we were meant to have it.

I think that’s good thinking about Disney. I wouldnt want to miss out riding the rides with my daughter for the first time either! And that’s so fun that you saved up for a great trip, even if it’s a few extra months of waiting, it will be well worth it and I’m sure your daughter will enjoy it so much. Those are the sort of moments that really made me want to be a mom in the first place.

I’m curious about your story since you are using donor sperm like me–I assume your husband has other kids from a previous relationship? My husband had two kids with his ex wife. He got his vasectomy and only a couple of years later they got divorced. We actually reversed his vasectomy only 4 years after he got it, and by all accounts, the surgeries should have been great successes but that first one failed completely. It can be so frustrating, but I’m so thankful for men willing to be donors, and especially our daughter’s donor. She is absolutely perfect and I wouldn’t change a thing about her.


#15

[QUOTE=“booboo9595, post: 1789839, member: 61019”]Aw that’s fun that you had the same nurse! I’ll always remember the name of the midwife who inseminated me the cycle we got pregnant with our daughter, haha. And I’ll always thank her!

Let me know how your blood work goes, fingers crossed that everything is still great! I’m glad you don’t have to do the HSG again, it seems sort of like a pain. I’ve actually never had one before. When we first started IUIs TTC our first child, I got pregnant the FIRST cycle. Then I miscarried. But because of that they didn’t think I needed one, and later we got pregnant with our daughter. Then, when we were TTC our son, we didn’t realize my husband’s second vas reversal was sort of working so we did another donor IUI, and I got pregnant again, first time! But then miscarried again! But I still could assume my tubes were clear, so no HSG. Then a few months later we naturally got pregnant with my son. So this is the first time that it has taken me many times to get pregnant at all, even though those first pregnancies never ended well unfortunately. Anyway, my doctor seems to think my tubes are probably fine, and I hope he’s right, but like they say clearing them out won’t hurt either way!

I do get my follies checked every medicated cycle, I never did it on the unmedicated cycle (which is probably obvious). The first cycle I had three follies, same with the second, and last cycle I had two decent sized ones. That’s why I am so disappointed it didnt work, it seemed like everything was in order! But I try to be positive and believe that we will get THE baby we were meant to have when we were meant to have it.

I think that’s good thinking about Disney. I wouldnt want to miss out riding the rides with my daughter for the first time either! And that’s so fun that you saved up for a great trip, even if it’s a few extra months of waiting, it will be well worth it and I’m sure your daughter will enjoy it so much. Those are the sort of moments that really made me want to be a mom in the first place.

I’m curious about your story since you are using donor sperm like me–I assume your husband has other kids from a previous relationship? My husband had two kids with his ex wife. He got his vasectomy and only a couple of years later they got divorced. We actually reversed his vasectomy only 4 years after he got it, and by all accounts, the surgeries should have been great successes but that first one failed completely. It can be so frustrating, but I’m so thankful for men willing to be donors, and especially our daughter’s donor. She is absolutely perfect and I wouldn’t change a thing about her.[/QUOTE]

Hi booboo,
I think that the HSG will probably help your chances of conceiving. It probably contributed to our success and I’ve read plenty of other stories where someone conceived after getting the HSG. When I think about it, I think that it flushes things out and smooths out the tubes so the sperm and egg have a better chance at not getting caught up in there…idk…that’s just how I visulize it…lol. To answer your question, yes my husband had kids with his ex’s and had a vasectomy. We met about 5 years post vasectomy and got married about 4 years later. The first vasectomy reversal was done about 2 months prior to our wedding. It didn’t work so he had another surgery about a year after the first one and that one didn’t work either. My husband was actually the one who seriously suggested the donor option and for a while I wasn’t keen on it but I came around after I had time to grieve the loss of being able to have a biological child together. In fact, I became very excited about it because I knew that I would finally have a real shot at being able to get pregnant since we’d actually have some sperm! LOL! Like you, I’m extremely grateful to our daughter’s donor and so thankful to have had the option. We both couldn’t imagine our lives without our precious daughter. :smiley:

How is the Femara treating you so far? What dose are you taking?


#16

Hey there,
So far the Femara is a lot better than the Clomid. With Clomid, I was getting killer headaches and hot flashes, so far neither of those with the Femara. I have noticed that I am a lot more tired than usual, but that is honestly not a huge deal to me. Tomorrow (Tuesday) is my HSG, so fingers crossed I don’t have any blockages! Then i go in the next day (Wednesday) for my ultrasound to see if my follicles are growing. I really hope I respond to the Femara like I seemed to respond to the Clomid. I’ll be bummed if only Clomid works for me follicle-wise, because I’m enjoying having fewer symptoms on Femara. I am taking the lowest dose for Femara, 2.5 mg. My doctor had me on the lowest Clomid dose too. I don’t know if he would ever let me take a higher dose if I don’t get pregnant, he never mentioned that, just mentioned adding injectables if this doesn’t work after awhile. Hopefully I just get pregnant and never have to find out the answer to that question!


#17

I had my HSG yesterday and it was all good. Now I have my next IUI Saturday morning, hoping this is my BFP! I was a little disappointed that on Femara I’m only producing one follicle that is close to maturing as opposed to two (or even three) on Clomid, but those never got me pregnant either so I should definitely give Femara a chance!


#18

Yay for the HSG showing that everything is good! I understand being disappointed that the Femara only gave you one mature follicle but that’s the norm for Femara for most women. It might only give you one mature follicle but that’s what Femara is known for…giving you one really good healthy follicle. Plus it doesn’t mess with your lining like Clomid does. I think that you have a really good chance at pregnancy! One is all you need! Please let me know how you IUI went and how your donor numbers were! I really hope that this is you lucky cycle!! :smiley:


#19

[QUOTE=“LEOwifey, post: 1789378, member: 63883”]Hi booboo9595! I’m also an old member who is back and trying for our second IUI baby, our first was born 4/13. We just had our second IUI (2/15 failed) for baby #2. Praying that it works this time. I completely understand your frustration and I have also felt the same way that I wish I could just make a baby like a regular person. It’s hard, especially having friends with multiple children and I’m fearful I won’t be able to give my daughter a sibling. Praying for you and sending sticky vibes and baby dust your way![/QUOTE]

How did your 2nd IUI go LEOwifely? Did it work? I’d love to hear an update from you as well! I also hope to be able give my daughter a sibling to grow up with. Hopefully I haven’t waited too long as I’m going to be 36 this summer. :confused:


#20

[QUOTE=“maria_79, post: 1790083, member: 36954”]Yay for the HSG showing that everything is good! I understand being disappointed that the Femara only gave you one mature follicle but that’s the norm for Femara for most women. It might only give you one mature follicle but that’s what Femara is known for…giving you one really good healthy follicle. Plus it doesn’t mess with your lining like Clomid does. I think that you have a really good chance at pregnancy! One is all you need! Please let me know how you IUI went and how your donor numbers were! I really hope that this is you lucky cycle!! :D[/QUOTE]
Thanks! I was happy about the HSG being clear. I didn’t realize how worried I was about having blocked tubes until I was in the middle of the X-ray. You’re right about the Femara, I think I just got so used to having two or even three follicles so to only have one “good” one was a shock. But, my RE seems fine with it, and I’m really only going for one baby here so it could be enough! And i had almost no side effects compared to the Clomid so it was worth it! We picked a new donor this time, and his numbers were amazing. Best sperm count so far! So hopefully something is going on in my uterus right now! I’ll keep you updated.