I have struggled with infertility for 6 years now and I have had great success. None the less it has been a struggle and an emotional rollar coaster. I have a good friend who has a child, but is currently stuggling to get pregnant with her third. She is listening to her ob (despite me telling her to go to an RE) and waiting a year before she explores with a specialist. I am pregnant now and I have had my trouble and still do, but I don’t want to tell her. I know that this is ridiculous and she is a friend and of all people I know how it is to struggle and go through the BFN and miscarriages but I still don’t know how to approach it. We are getting together this weekend and I plan on not saying anything ( I am not really showing.) First off DH and I have told no one and don’t plan to untill we are further along since I do have miscarriages and have some trouble, so hiding it is what I have been doing for the past 10 weeks. Second I don’t want to lie to her, but I don’t want to spend the weekend with her too if it will be too much for her to handle. (We also are meeting up with a friend who had a new baby and one of our other friends are pregnant). SO I plan to hide it and say nothing and let her know by phone or text when we are not face to face.
Maybe I will change my mind once I am able to gage the situation. She may ask and if she does I can’t lie, and I know that infertility, child bearing will be brought up. I plan to say that we are trying and would like too.
What do you guys honestly think since we have all been in this situation (other way around)?