[QUOTE=stephc83]I started my IVF process January 9th and I am scheduled for implantation tomorrow. I am struggling with how many embryos to implant.
Lab suggested 2 due to my age but I have never successfully had a pregnancy in my uterus and I am afraid after all the time, money, emotions that it will not work. I ideally would like to implant 3 b/c I would like twins and I am completely more then fine with having multiples but I am terrified of this failing
F - 29 * lost tubes due to ectopics
M - 29 *perfect
9/2009 - :bfp: - 10 wk apt; blind ovum; DNC to follow
3/2010 - :bfp: started bleeding; woke up one morning tube burst. Emergency Surgery; lost tube.
1/2011 - :bfp: couldn’t find pregnancy; another ectopic treated with meds.
9/2012 - :bfn:
10/2012 - :bfp: weird b/c we weren’t trying; went to dr’s discovered another ectopic (2 months old) emergency surgery had to remove tube
1/2013 - Started first round IVF; smooth sailing (as smooth as lots of needles can be) so far.[/QUOTE]
I think just about everyone would prefer to have healthy twins, and my wife and I have had the same thoughts that you have. IVF is a taxing process and it’s tempting to want the “instant family” that multiples imply, but it’s also very, very important to remember that multiples are much more likely to have problems in utero and after birth. Doctors discourage the pursuit of multiples because, for society at large, the pursuit of multiples is a very harmful thing.
It’s easy to envision a rosy and picturesque outcome but you may want to temper those visions with a portrayal of other outcomes: the possibility of premature babies with lifelong health problems. I’m a fraternal twin myself and I was pretty below average in birth weight when I was born. My twin sister was twice my weight.
I don’t think it’s quite justified to transfer more than 2 the first time. If you end up needing later cycles, the outcome of your previous cycles will inform you as to whether transfering more than 2 is a good idea.