There doesn’t seem to be a general adoption post on this forum so I thought I would start one where we can all introduce ourselves and where we are in the adoption process.
My name is Christa and I live in Connecticut. My husband is in the military and we went through multiple fertility treatments before moving on to domestic adoption. We signed up with American Adoptions and waited a year with no match.
A few months before the one-year mark I got laid off and we were told that we needed to update our homestudy which was about $700. We decided at that point to put our adoption on hold and wait 4-5 years till my husband got out of the military. We notified AA, spent all our adoption savings paying off bills and car loans and started planning a trip to England with my mom.
On November 9th we got The Call from our local agency here in CT that did our homestudy. In CT our homestudy was good for 2 years, not one, and they kept showing our profile. A birthmom had picked us and was due in late December! We went home to crunch the numbers and figure out where we would be able to get the money for adoption and whether we were emotionally ready to open up that door when we had closed it months before. That weekend we said YES to the match. A few weeks later we met the birthmom and birth grandmother and on January 5th our beautiful baby girl was born.
We technically have an open adoption though we haven’t heard from the birthmom in a few months. Originally she wanted a semi-open adoption so I’m not sure if that’s what our relationship will evolve to. Either way we email her monthly and send pictures and a hard copy letter through the agency.
I look forward to hearing about everyone’s journey and hope that many of you who are still waiting for a match will find encouragement from our situation!