Is it really that hard


#1

My DH had 1 SA zero sperm. Went back to urologist for several blood tests. Urologist canceled last appointment and sent certified last letter to seek fertility treatment. And to think I researched this doctor and didn’t even know where to begin. I feel discouraged as my DH isn’t talking much about the tests.


#2

[QUOTE=“amiraclechild, post: 1787812, member: 65265”]My DH had 1 SA zero sperm. Went back to urologist for several blood tests. Urologist canceled last appointment and sent certified last letter to seek fertility treatment. And to think I researched this doctor and didn’t even know where to begin. I feel discouraged as my DH isn’t talking much about the tests.[/QUOTE]


#3

So sorry you find yourself here. First let me assure you that your husband’s response is common for men. They process grief differently than women, plus male factor infertility affects a man’s ego, do they often don’t like to talk about it. Give him time, let him know this is a joint problem.
As for the doctor, go for a second opinion to a male factor specialist, not a urologist. Our urologist actually returned our copay check because he admitted we were outside the scope of his expertise!
One SA isn’t enough for a diagnosis. Your husband needs a centrifuged SA (where they spin the sample so any sperm settle at the bottom). Plus, depending on his lab results, there may very well be things he can do to increase his count without IF treatment. I recommend finding a NaproTech doctor to see if your situation might not be able to be addressed that way. Mild male factor can be corrected by working with this type of doctor.

Not sure how long you’ve had your diagnosis, but try not to rush into anything. IF treatment is taxing, and you want your hubby on board.
Feel free to ask any questions, we are male factor veterans at this point (our daughter is about to turn one), and we pursued lots of different options over the five years it took us to welcome her home.


#4

Thanks for the information. It’s been a little over 4 years. And during these 4 years I’ve made appointments with several specialist and because of fear we either cancel or the first visit is more of consultation. I believe we are in a good place to start pursuing new doctors and treatment.


#5

Thanks for the information on the doctor’s. It’s been a little over 3 years since the 1st and only SA. But there have been many consultations and blood work done by various doctors. None really work out that well. So I will take this information and move forward with new outlook. I think personally we are in a better place to seek treatment now. Thanks again.

[QUOTE=“anilorak13ska, post: 1787817, member: 48334”]So sorry you find yourself here. First let me assure you that your husband’s response is common for men. They process grief differently than women, plus male factor infertility affects a man’s ego, do they often don’t like to talk about it. Give him time, let him know this is a joint problem.
As for the doctor, go for a second opinion to a male factor specialist, not a urologist. Our urologist actually returned our copay check because he admitted we were outside the scope of his expertise!
One SA isn’t enough for a diagnosis. Your husband needs a centrifuged SA (where they spin the sample so any sperm settle at the bottom). Plus, depending on his lab results, there may very well be things he can do to increase his count without IF treatment. I recommend finding a NaproTech doctor to see if your situation might not be able to be addressed that way. Mild male factor can be corrected by working with this type of doctor.

Not sure how long you’ve had your diagnosis, but try not to rush into anything. IF treatment is taxing, and you want your hubby on board.
Feel free to ask any questions, we are male factor veterans at this point (our daughter is about to turn one), and we pursued lots of different options over the five years it took us to welcome her home.[/QUOTE]


#6

Glad to help. Feel free to keep us posted as you move forward. There were a lot of azoo vets here before the reorg, I’m sure they’ll be back and everyone can offer some useful insight at every step of the way.


#7

I too was in your shoes. It’s a devastating blow when you first hear that your husbands sperm count is zero. However, in our situation my hubby had the mapping procedure done and they were able to find sperm! We now have a 22 month old diva. I just say get the testing done. It cost us $4k. 2k for the initial and another because we didn’t have them save it from the initial mapping. However, we do have the rest in storage. As Anilorak13ska stated, they were so many vets on the site before it went down for several months. I was on the site a lot ( I had to change my name because I forgot my password) but the people here were sooooo very helpful. If you have any questions or need to vent, this is the place!


#8

Yes, I know we are missing many. I mentioned in another thread that if there are usernames that you remember, I am happy to message them or forward your messages.
Good luck everyone with testing/treatment. I feel like the saying, “knowledge is power”, is even truer in our fertility world.

Hoping for a happy Monday for all of you!


#9

Some of the ladies I used to follow their stories was Kris79 and Singingirl96. I had to look back and see, but they were two that I am curious about!


#10

Thank you Stillhopeful08! I will email them.