IVF or surrogacy?


#68

Sorry to hear about the failed cycles. You are a strong person hun. I am sure happiness will come to you. Now I have a suggestion for you. If you have your eggs fertilized then you can implement it. You can get them implanted in a surrogate mother. In this way, the baby will be genetically yours. I know you will miss out on giving the birth, But hey, You will get the baby at least.


#69

Don’t worry dear.
There is a solution to every problem today.
If you are unable to have a baby from your own womb then why not you go for surrogacy.
Surrogacy is the most common method of having a baby with your own DNA.
Don’t lose any hope dear i’m also 43 years old and i have also no luck with kids.
I had many complications regarding pregnancy.I conceived for 3 times but resulted in miscarriages every time.So i also gave up on getting pregnant again and again.I researched over the web for different methods of having babies and i came across surrogacy.Surrogacy is a good solution for mothers like us who can’t have a baby of their own.While researching about surrogacy i came across a clinic many times.There are very positive reviews about it over the internet.
So i contacted the clinic and told them my complications they answered my all questions.They cleared my misunderstanding about the surrogacy.
So now i am ready to go for the surrogacy method.
I have persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy.He is ready if we can have a baby via surrogacy of our own DNA’s.
The clinic will find a good surrogate for our baby.
If someone has any review and suggestion please let us know.So that we can learn from you.


#70

I’m sasha from Japan. We are settled in Japan from last few decades.
I had hysterectomy cancer. All of you should know its treatment and its result.As a result i was cancer free but for the lifetime i’m infertile now.So i was worried and tensed and than my husband came to know about surrogacy.Surrogacy is a method of raising a baby from someone’s else egg. I was amazed at this method but when i studied about it i was happy.Here in Japan it is totally prohibited.So we moved to Europe and roamed in Europe for sometime and contacted many clinics there, Than we heard about BioTexCom and we moved to Ukraine. It is a very good clinic and we consulted them.
They are the best they have best solution for us now.
Then we found a surrogate mom and we donated the eggs and now surrogate is carrying our twin daughters. Now when i sit alone i thank god that he is giving us two gifts in one time. We are so happy and excited to have our babies.
Please share your stories with me.


#71

Hi there @Rihana966. I hope you are doing fine. I am really sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain you must have gone through. Infertility is really a humongous issue. Yes, Surrogacy is definitely a blessing. I am infertile too. I also had my baby through surrogacy. It is a really great method for anyone who wants to have kids. surrogacy is banned in Japan? Hmm, I am shocked. I don’t know what is wrong with people. It is 2018 and people still frown upon such actions. I am really glad that you had success with surrogacy. I hope your kid brings you lots of joy.


#72

Hey, Welcome to this forum. Our forum provides you a better suggestion. Dera I feel very sad to hear about You BUt the good things is that you do not lose your hope. You try to move on in your life. Life does not stop. The everything should be better. Everything takes her time and must be better for us. But depression and lose hope in not the solution of any problem. You choose surrogacy. Dear surrogacy makes you able to see your own biological child. It is not a dream it is a reality. Through surrogacy, many peoples have their own child. Couples who can not conceive naturally. Enjoy their child life through surrogacy. Surrogacy in the blessing for all those couples. Who lose all hope in their life. Best of luck


#73

Hey, Welcome to this forum. Our forum provides you a better suggestion. Dera I feel very sad to hear about You BUt the good things is that you do not lose your hope. You try to move on in your life. Life does not stop. The everything should be better. Everything takes her time and must be better for us. But depression and lose hope in not the solution of any problem. You choose surrogacy. Dear surrogacy makes you able to see your own biological child. It is not a dream it is a reality. Through surrogacy, many peoples have their own child. Couples who can not conceive naturally. Enjoy their child life through surrogacy. Surrogacy in the blessing for all those couples. Who lose all hope in their life. Best of luck


#74

Hello!!! Welcome to the forum. Yes this forum gives you positive suggestions. Provide you benefit. Hope through this forum you must be able to do best decision. I know your problem is so risky.I know how people deal. They think that you are sinner and show you your all arrogance. But you do not feel bad. There is a reason why you went through. You know your condition is just like my aunt. She is also seven years married women. She faced many problems and hardships. She separated with her man. And now she got married second time at age of 40 but still the problem is as same as before. She trying to conceive and visited doctors and apply every formula on herself. The doctors refers her the new technological methods (The new scientific techniques surrogacy methods). After that she was very stress and think about it . She also discuss with her husband and also with me. As, I said her that you just have two paths. In the one, in which you will be-be happy for a lifetime else you wait for a miracle. I convinced her that you have guts and her husband also agreed with this method. She agreed with surrogacy. After her treatment, she blessed with baby which is about 5 years old now. So don’t lose hope if a science gives you a chance. I think you also have to avail it .


#75

It is not something great to hear from a desperate parent. You must have been longing for the best in life. It often happens that things don’t go the way they should be. It is all destiny that is playing the game with your life. We never know what is best for us. Your failure in IVF does not mean that life has come to an end. The road to good luck is still open. Surrogacy can be real alternative. You are just scared because you think that you might not be able to feel the sheer joy of being a mother. Remember for some good you have to experience some worst in the life too. It is the same situation. Motherhood cannot be categorized. You must think that motherhood is an inner feeling. You feel great love for those who don’t even belong to you. This baby in the surrogate has at least some you in it. You will experience every move. You will see the baby scans.If I summarize you will share the joy of pregnancy. I hope my non expert opinion would be able to help you in making the right decision of your life. There are numerous blessings waiting for you.


#76

Hey there!!!.i really feel depressed to see your thread. I can understand the pain you are going through. Indeed surrogacy is an amazing process. it is a very great blessing to start a family of your own. I was also an infertile woman. I wanted babies badly. I went for IVF but wasn’t able to conceive. but I it did not work for me so I gave up. I went for surrogacy. I am enjoying a happy life now. wish you all the best.


#77

Ukraine is a good choice I’m sure. Other European countries either prohibit surrogacy or allow surrogacy agreements only the surrogate is unpaid. For those countries that allow surrogacy the laws typically give all parental rights to the surrogate. This is so until a court process can transfer the rights from her to the IP. In these countries the surrogate has the right to keep the baby if she chooses. But this will never happen in Ukraine. Surrogacy there is well regulated. Surrogacy contracts are considered enforceable under legislation. Under Ukrainian law, the child belongs to IP from the moment of conception. Once the baby is born, the birth certificate is issued with the names of the IP. SM is not awarded any parental rights. She has no standing to keep the baby or claim any rights. This is true even if there were no biological relation between the child and IP. In this and other cases their names remain on the birth certificate. Among other benefits is that Ukainian surrogates are usually between 25-35 years old. She is a natural mother of at least one child. She’s mentally and physically capable of becoming a SM. Her marital status is irrelevant. I’m saying this because in the UK for example one should be aware of so called Mother’s & Father’s rights. Among those: The woman who gives birth is always treated as the mother in UK law and has the right to keep the child. Even if they’re not genetically related. However, parenthood can be transferred by parental order or adoption. Surrogacy contracts aren’t enforced by UK law, even if you’ve a signed deal with your surrogate and have paid for her expenses. It’s illegal to pay a surrogate in the UK, except for their reasonable expenses.The child’s legal father or ‘second parent’ will be the surrogate’s husband or partner unless: legal rights are given to someone else through a parental order or adoption. The surrogate’s husband or civil partner didn’t give their permission to their wife or partner. If your surrogate has no partner, or they’re unmarried and not in a civil partnership, the child will have no legal father or second parent unless the partner actively consents. Seems so complicated, ahh. Imagine your surro’s partner is considered to be a legal father of your baby in the UK…Sounds really horrible to my ear!! So judging from those points I’m sure you both did right when chose Ukraine for surrogacy. God bless you with your bundle of joy soon!


#78

Well I’ve read somewhere a dr suggests using ivf unless you’re strong & healthy enough and have money. For me, sounds really rough. You know, like a good try to loom your money. Though cases differ so much! For some people this journey is the hugest life challenge to battle. For others, this is a pure way of making money. I’m so glad we had the opportunity to have been treated not like ‘cycle’ but like ‘individual case’ at Biotexcom. This was a huge luck! Here’s some of my background. I’ve always been a promising architect putting all my strength & time onto career. So my infertility found me at the age of 40 yo (Probably sooner, but I’ve never happened to know about my issues before.) Dh was 42 yrs old. We got married in 2013. TTC since 10/14. Soon I was diagnosed on PCOS & blocked fallopian tubes. My AMH results came in <3.2. IVF 9/15 - failed. IVF 12/15 - failed. I never saw the faintest of BFP which was driving me mad. DR suggested PGD as he suspected me of being a carrier of Wilson disease - a very rare treatable disorder. Our further step was using donor eggs. It took us 2 shots to get prego with them. Though I’m sure I could continue trying with ivf if no luck. Sorrogacy was the last option to count on for both of us. Honestly, we even did a huge research on how the process was going to be just in case. So I’ve got so many things t share with ladies here applying for this option. All in all, ivf or surrogacy - this must be a mutual decision of the IP & their Dr whom they really trust. If he says there’s no possible luck with ivf & suggests surrogacy --then probably it’s time doing this…Everyone’s path is so individual. I’m wishing you the best with yours.


#79

hello there. how are you doing now? i hope you are fine. I’m so sorry you had to go through a lot. maybe IVF is not for you. why on you go for surrogacy? a mother can never have a different behavior. after so much struggle. when you’ll finally hold your child in your hands. you will fee the most blessed. wouldn’t the be amazing? will you attitude be change? definitely not. don’t let negative thoughts stop you. you should go for it. Ukraine has many good clinics. Biotexcom is of them. my sister is under surrogacy there. they are working really professionally. take care. keep me updated.


#80

Welcome to the forum. I am sorry to know about you. I empathize with you on your failures. May I ask some questions? Do you know the reason for those failures? have you consulted an expert for your condition? If yes, what did they say?
Although surrogacy is a great option to go with. It has helped many in need. And luckily I am one of those. I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. But now I have my baby girl. We flew to Ukraine for our surrogacy. It was a wonderful experience. I wish you luck in future. Stay strong and positive. More power to you. Baby dust on your way.


#81

I am sorry for your problems. You have taken the right decision. Surrogacy will be best for you. You are lucky that you contacted them through email. They are the scammers. They just deceive people. They deceived my cousin. They trapped her all money. But they didn’t perform surrogacy treatment for my cousin. Because they don’t have any advanced technology for the treatment. So don’t go there. There is another good clinic in Europe. They are best in dealing with surrogacy. I wish you get successful. Till then best of luck.


#82

There are so many reasons couples may apply for surrogacy. Among them hysterectomy. If a woman has had a hysterectomy and an illness it prevents her from being able to carry a pregnancy. Some women are required to take medication that could adversely affect a growing fetus. Also age and whether a woman is able to safely carry a pregnancy. A friend of mine was experiencing a life threatening situation. Dr told pregnancy was forbidden for her, so they opted for surrogacy 2 yrs ago at biotex and were successful from the 1st round. Another reason may be when a woman was born without a uterus. Fibroids in the Uterus. Although fibroids can be removed, they can also grow back. Unexplained Infertility. It occurs after a woman has tried 3 or 4 IVF cycles with good quality embryos but does not get pregnant. And other reasons we may read about on every infertility site. For me surrogacy has always been the last option to count on. We were lucky once using donor eggs for ivf. Came back to the same clinic for a sibling. Currently waiting for the ET.


#83

Hi, here’s some of my background. Me 40; DH 45. DX - PCOS, endo, one ovary and tube; MFI. Oct 2008: Mike is here! 7lbs 14oz, 20.75 inches; C-Section.
TTC #2 since Sept 2015. BFN= 3 IVFs. IVF#4 – early mc @6w4d, June 2018. Last IVF #5 (5dt of two 2AA blasts) – BFP!!
Beta #1, 11dp5dt= 295.
Beta #2, 13dp5dt= 825 (doubling time of 32 hours!); progesterone 130.
Last time we were using donor eggs at Ukrainian clinic bio texcom. Quite far away from home. But the clinic was doing its best to make our stay with them comfortable and the most effective. We are waiting for the 7wks scan.
The thing I wanna say is that you have to trust your dr. (if you actually do…) He’s the one to know your med story the best, so that can advice you the best. Make sure you aren’t making a haste decision. Anyway, whatever your path is -IVF or surrogacy, let me know - I’ve got a plenty of things to share. Good luck!


#84

Seems you’ve suffered a lot. I know I might be posting late, but. if you’ve been exhausted with multiple failures. and you feel like your body got drained physically. and you don’t feel quite well emotionally - maybe it’s time to have some break before heading off to another attempt?..Not insisting, just my personal thought. I think dr is the one to advice much better. he knows your particular case and will definitely offer you the best treatment plan. (if only you don’t want to switch doc and clinic 'cause of failures). Have you thought of using donor egg? Anyway, I think this might help. Found this on fb. biotexcom team is going to the USA early next year to hold an event like the one they had in London in November. It’s a great chance to have an initial consultation with them in New York and get all necessary information about treatment at biotex com. You may follow the link and fill in the form to register https://goo.gl/forms/qmppUatjA6Lj1KOW2. Admission is free. Soon after the registration, you will get an email with information about the date and venue where the event will take place. The email will be sent to the address you provide on sign up. GL!!


#85

I could write more about my med history. but long story short, AMH doesn’t mean a lot EXCEPT for women going through IVF where the doctors use it as a starting point in terms of what dosage of drugs to give you. Some women conceive on an AMH level of 0.2 (or less). others at a more normal level have difficulty. so don’t get too caught up in this. If you really want to know your GP should be able to give you a script for the test. Hope this puts sb’s mind at ease.


#86

Hope you won’t mind me chimming here again. Here are some of the keypoints to focus on if you happen considering the clinic like the one we used (BioTex, Kiev). They achieve positive results due to day by day improving techniques. Their embryologists work with fresh genetic material (eggs/sperm cryopreservation is used only at patient’s will). Such approach automatically multiplies chances for the successful fertilization. It is known and proven that quality of eggs gets worse during the freezing process leading to the failed IVF attempts. In addition to the spermogram doctors conduct sperm analysis for apoptosis. Conducting this medical test embryologist determines presence of the damaged sperm cells which prevent successful conception and can cause child’s DNA damage. In the case of cells’ poor quality, doctor prescribes appropriate medication, afterwards perform reanalysis and successfully fertilize the egg. Karyotype analysis is the part of a standard analyzes set (karyotype test shows the total number of chromosomes, the sex of the person being studied, and if there are any structural abnormalities with any of the individual chromosomes which can cause child’s diseases). Conducting programs of the egg donation and surrogate motherhood doctors calculate the ideal “window of implantation”. This is the most successful period for the embryo transfer without disturbing its structure and endometrium integrity. Starting to work with the infertile couple, their specialists use only individual approach in each case. First of all, members of the medical staff carry out detailed diagnostics of patients in order to identify clearly the seeds of the disease or reasons of the unsuccessful IVF attempts. There are no identical protocols as BioTex team does not work in the traces. Because positive result of any medical program is their main goal! Doctors of the Kiev center walk the line of the latest methods of treatment. So, for example, embryologists use the most successful method of working with blastocysts, namely, embryo transfer on the fifth day. It greatly increases the chance of pregnancy during the in vitro fertilization programs. Women who don’t have a functional uterus or for whom pregnancy poses a serious health risk might choose IVF using another person to carry the pregnancy (gestational carrier). And to apply for surrogacy one should meet the requirements. If it’s Ukraine, for example, then you have to prove any of these: You cannot carry a baby yourself. You suffer a genetic disease. You’ve already faced 4 IVF failures with A grade embryos. The pregnancy is prohibited for you. Moreover, you’ll have it to be proved by the doc’s certificate. Surrogacy law varies dramatically withing surrogacy friendly countries. So, be attentive. Wishing you good luck.


#87

Thanks for Sharing informative information.
In vitro fertilization is a process of fertilization where an egg is combined with sperm outside the body.In vitro fertilization is a process of fertilization where an egg is combined with sperm outside the body. It is a procedure in which fertilization takes place in the lab.