Need advice - sensitive matter


#1

So, I need some advice from you ladies that might have had the same experience. My DH and I had our first IUI this morning. We :dance: on Wednesday night and then on Fri (trigger day) my RE said to :dance: again for the last time. Well, poor DH had some issues. He all the sudden has gotten some performance anxiety. It happened a little bit for the one Clomid round that we did but we still managed to get the deed done but not Wed. So this morning at the IUI we had good numbers but then the RE said to :dance: tonight and tomorrow night. Now I am scared to tell my husband and he is convinced he needs Viagra! Has anyone else had this happen and have any advice? Also, how bad is it if we don’t :dance: tonight? Does that mean our IUI won’t be successful? Thanks for the help!!!

:babydust: to all!!!


#2

I have the same problem, Holly. Whenever DH is “supposed to” perform, he can’t get that fact out of his head, and he has trouble.

The IUI is timed to happen right when you ovulate, so that is your absolute best chance. Any :dance: that you can do is just icing on the cake, in case you ovulate early, late, or your post-wash numbers aren’t great.

For both of our sakes, I really hope that it doesn’t lessen our chances more than a couple percent.


#3

I always thought the RE telling you to :dance: on certain days in conjunction with an IUI was so that you wouldn’t know if it was the procedure or the :dance: that resulted in your :bfp:. I wouldn’t worry too much about it.

As for the performance issues, DH had that when it came time to give the sample for our IUI. It’s stress, so try to help him relax as much as possible. Don’t stress the :dance: too much. Make those days all about the two of you and enjoying just being together. Once you DO get your :bfp: you’re going to be short of alone time!

:babydust:


#4

We have consistently had the same issues. I did everything I could to alleviate the pressure. So, in my case he wasn’t there when the RE said to :dance: so I just told DH that I wanted to do it now that it was for fun and not for “business.” If DH was there when your RE said it, you could tell him (honestly) that the women on this thread have said that this is just to CYA and if it happens great, but if not, no big deal. That is the truth and hopefully it will take some pressure off of him.


#5

Thanks

Thanks ladies for your responses!! You made me feel so much better!!! This stuff is so stressful yet we are suppose to be staying stress-free…it is so difficult! Just goes to show that the men can stress just as much as we do!

Thanks again and :babydust: !!


#6

[quote=HollyGenesis]Thanks ladies for your responses!! You made me feel so much better!!! This stuff is so stressful yet we are suppose to be staying stress-free…it is so difficult! Just goes to show that the men can stress just as much as we do!

Thanks again and :babydust: !![/quote]

Holly don’t worry about the :dance:. The IUI should be timed correctly with the trigger. For both my IUI’s we only did just that- the IUI. Nothing else. And we got pregnant both times. Good luck to you!!:babydust::babydust:


#7

will honestly that wont effect that much , and dont stress about :dance: , u see at times it decreases the sperm count
so relax
we were never able to do it on the desire dates we use to miss by one or two days

hope u get ur :bfp: :grouphug: