So some background info, I am 27yrs old, and my husband is 34. We have been ttc since July 2010.:grr:
When I was A LOt younger ( 18yrs and hadnt met my husband, i was dating an idiot instead) i accidentally got pregnant ( and we were being careful with an IUD and condoms!) Long story short, he beat me one night, and I lost the baby at 7m, and had to give birth to a still born:wings: . It was the worst experience of my life (as was pressing charges againt him, only because i had to see him in court) Since then I have always been afraid something would be wrong if I tried to get pregnant.
Well as I mentioned its now been about 16months, that my wonderful husband and I have tried and I have been TERRIFIED it was me… so in October we went in to start tests to see whats going on.
So far all my test have been clear, and normal!! SO yay for me! Not so great news for hubby his semen analysis showed 1million, with LOW motility and not many ‘normal’ sperm. But we are headed to a specialist and are keeping positive for whatever treatments we may do.
SO the vent! We live in a small, farming community, and apparantly your ability to reproduce is highly desired and rewarded. We have my inlaws, friends and strangers (well they know my hubby who has lived here forever, I am a ‘newcomer’ still at 3.5yrs)constantly asking if we are pregnant, when will be etc etc.So we have told my parents, and his parents, and if they ( his parents, not mine) could stop asking as it was only making us feel worse, and we will keep them posted. Well we told them about the test results, and his parents, were shocked that it would be there precious son that has the issue not me, and they let that be known. Which not only hurt him, but hurt me as well.
Then my sil just got pregnant with their second child ( and they werent even trying! maybe we should try that?!) It took everything to not cry at the dinner table when they told us. And I am happy for them, and wish them the best, but at the same time , I am upset. I have a friend who is due any day now, and a few that just gave birth, and a few more that are ttc.
So any tips on how to deal with people at the upcoming christmas dinner? I KNOW with the SILs news of being preggers that i will be looked at next. and the sil, is always making comment, about her first child needing a niece or nephew.
WHEW! That feels better just to type it out!!
Sorry if its confusing!
Jaime - 27 (All clear so far)
DH - 34 (low count and low motility)
Been ttc since July 2010
Just started down the specialist road…
:babydust: ,:bsv: and:bfp: for everyone!