Staying calm- Let me tell you my story and give you some hope.
As you can see from my sig., DH and I have been raked through the coals the last year and a half. It is so important to choose a doctor you trust for this process. We used Dr Brannigan for ALL of our Tese procedures. He is by far, the most amazing doctor I have ever met. That being said, the lab at Northwestern (where Brannigan is based out of) almost ruined us when they had a tank malfunction and killed all of my husbands sperm from his first procedure. We loved Brannigan so much we went back to him for another Tese, and opted to do a live fertilization (Tese and egg retrieval on same day), however, my IVF doctor at Northwestern was a complete waste of time. Never answered my questions, and didn’t seem to care much about our case. He kept telling me my eggs were B grade, and he didn’t know why.
We finally opted to switch to Dr Kaplan at FCI for IVF. After my first failed cycle in March with Kaplan, he sat DH and I down and started to talk donor sperm. He said it wasn’t my eggs, and he knew how to make my stim better. He wasn’t very confident in DH’s sperm, which was awful to hear, but it was a relief to have an answer as to why we kept failing. DH was so determined, he insisted on having ANOTHER Tese in an attempt to use fresh sperm for one last shot at our own child. Dr Kaplan tweaked my IVF protocol a little bit and BOOM! Our first :bfp: happened just yesterday!!! Dr Brannigan did perform DH’s 3rd Tese, and then the spermies sat overnight to wait for my egg retrieval the next day, but they were still fresh. And as you can see, my first pregnancy test was convincingly strong!
My point in this long winded message is this…they will tell you that there is no difference between frozen sperm and fresh. I disagree whole heartedly. I realize this thread is a few months old, but if you haven’t had the procedure yet for DH and you plan to, I recommend doing a fresh Tese with your egg retrieval. AND- use Dr Kaplan for your IVF. Trust me, I’ve done the research. He is your man. He does have a urologist that works in his building that can make it so your hubby’s sperm doesn’t have to be transported, which I recommend. But like I said, we love Brannigan so we went about it the way we did. Good luck to you
PS- DH was on clomid for his Tese which really helped get some happy swimming sperm! AND- I made him stop smoking weed for 3 months before his last Tese and that was the one that worked. So, I think making sure DH is in good health is necessary.