It will be 3 weeks on Wednesday since my D&C. I was 10 weeks and found out at the u/s the baby’s heart stopped beating and stopped growing at 8 weeks. Today the doctor called me with the results from the chromosomal test and told me my little angel baby was a girl.
My boyfriend was supportive for the first week after the D&C but after the first week he has become so cold and distant. He doesn’t say I love you to me anymore on his own unless I say it first. He doesn’t look at me, touch me, or talk to me in the same way. He used to write sweet texts to me and now I feel as if he hates me. We started fighting all the time. I tried sitting him down and explaining to him how I feel but it didn’t change anything and it just seems like he doesn’t care. I moved in with him in his home town right before I got pregnant and I still don’t know anyone here, I have no friends or family near. I feel so alone and I can’t stand the thought of losing him too right now. I love him more than ever.
He is always gone and when he is home he doesn’t want anything to do with me. I know men grieve differently than women and he represses his feelings which he has told me but I really need support from him right now. When the doctor called today to let us know the results, he had nothing to say. We plan on naming the baby tomorrow night because he has some tournament at a bar tonight but he doesn’t seem as if he cares like he did before when we discussed to still name our baby. I just really need to feel loved right now.
I went through infertility for a couple of years with my ex husband and was never able to get pregnant which ended up destroying our marriage. This is much harder losing my miracle baby, and now I’m afraid of losing my boyfriend too.
Is anyone in a similar situation and if so how did you handle it??? Please Help!