Hello, to start out my name is Danielle and I have been looking on this website for sometime and read through some posts and trying to get a grasp on all of the ins and outs of options we have… I am 20 and my boyfriend is 33 some age difference, hopefully getting engaged with in this year. We have been together for 4 years and just recently purchased our first home. He had a Vasectomy going on 7 years now due to his previous marriage, her not wanting anymore children after their son was born. Now that we have moved on and gotten farther into our relationship and purchased a home we have started talking about having children because for me that is a must. He has spoke to his dr about a reversal but it doesnt look good in it working and resulting in a pregnancy. We are really wanting to try to conceive before we get married, I would rather spend money on trying to conceive than a wedding.
He wants it to be genetically his so sperm bank is out of the option and he doesnt want to do adoption, I was open to anything as long as it resulted in me being able to be a mother. We have been looking at IVF with the ICSI so it could be genetically his, would this be our only option so it is genetically his?? The whole thing scares me and its very overwhelming to me at this time, with the financial side of it and not sure of the entire process. I have been doing research and the more I read the more I get overwhelmed with confusion. We are not planning on doing anything until next year were we can hopefully refinance the house so we can hopefully pay for all the medical bills, but until then what can I do to get me on the right track? like to prepair myself for the whole process, maybe a check list? What is something I could do to improve my chances? Ive never had any medical problems, ive never had a baby or been pregnant.
I may be stressing over nothing at this time, I just want things to be all ready and I feel informed before I go forth in the process. It sounds like a long road and sometimes heartbreaking road but I am willing to take the road if that means WE can raise a bundle of joy together.
Thanks and sorry if Ive asked questions thats been answered before, and sorry Im asking all of this now I just feel that I should ask for advice to women that know where I should start for the process a year can go pretty fast and I want to be prepared
Thank you for your time