I read recently a blog post about the phrases that irritate you most when you have a fertility issue. The winner for me is the question: “When are you planning a (another) baby?” It just drives me crazy sometimes. The worst thing is that quite often people who are aware of your situation are asking this. I just cannot understand why they do that… Do they feel a winner or privileged in comparison to you or they just don’t understand that it hurts?
Another one is “You need to think about a (another) baby, you are not getting younger”… Really? I had no idea about that…
Am I a bad person that get angry about this? I even tried to tell them I don’t want to talk about it anymore. Sometimes I say we don’t want more kids (we have a miracle IUI baby), sometimes that we have health issues or that it is not a right time for us and even: “that is our personal business” (the last one is not a nice one in our culture. Your personal business is everyone’s…) I don’t know, I don’t feel comfortable telling everyone that we cannot have kids and might not ever have more kids… I just can’t say it loud
What irritates you most? How do you react? Is there a way to manage all those people very interested in your family plans?