Questions About Surrogacy


#1

I have a general question regarding surrogacy.
Like when we’ll have a baby from a surrogate mom who will hold the baby for the first time.
Us or the surrogate mom.
Its very hard to give birth to a baby.I know the pain of delivering a baby.
These type of several questions strike my mind many times.
I guess surrogacy is the only solution to my problem.
A friend has now suggested me to search for some international clinics that do not reside in our country.
You should also visit a surrogacy related clinic.
I have recently found one situated in Ukraine.
They have quite a costless package with all the facilities.
I have had many treatments from many experts but they never turn out to work out for me the way I hope them to.
I have tried IUI and IVF but they failed for me many many times.
People have now told me about surrogacy and I am really thinking about going for it.
I just need some guidelines as surrogacy is illegal in the state where I live and I am very scared.
I just need to complete my life and my family before it is too late for me even to try.
I think you should give it a try too because in my view it is quite a suitable procedure for women of our age
I have pregnancy issue and complications from the past 10 years and I still am childless as I have always been.
There must be some way to carry out everything legally, right?
It is very difficult at times to handle the loneliness and the depression but there are always friends and family to make me feel better.
One thing that I am very thankful for is that I never lose hope.


#2

Hello! Good luck with your plan lilly.
i’m new here.I’m from Japan.We moved to Europe to find our heaven.
Surrogacy is ban in Japan.And i’m infertile due to some cancer reasons. So we moved to Europe to find surrogacy related clinics. We consulted many clinics in Europe. Than we came to know about clinics in Ukraine and we moved to Ukraine.
In ukraine we found a very good clinic.
Now we are having twins with the help of this clinic.The clinic gave us a very good surrogate mom.With the help of that mom we are having our two twin daughters.
We are so excited and happy.
Feedback and suggestions much admired.


#3

Hi! Sorry to hear about your hard journey. It is really a painful thing. But the positive thing is that you did not lose hope. It is good to know that you thinking about the surrogacy. It really helps. If it is banned in your state then you can go abroad for it. Do not worry about the process. It is the safest method of getting a baby. After failures of IVF, I also went for surrogacy. It got a surrogate son. So I suggest you not to waste any more time. Just go and complete your family. Good luck on your new journey. God bless you.


#4

I understand that you must have so many confusions and questions that might surround your mind. And that’s fine. You have to be very careful over such procedures. And you must look at every single detail that might fall your way. There is nothing huge to consider who would hold the baby first. Because we got to respect the women who are giving birth to your baby. And she has got equal rights. And no one could help you either the surrogate.


#5

Hopefully, things will be in your favor. You can be there at the time the birth happens. Depends where you live. And where is your clinic is located? I stayed in Europe for the last month my surrogate was pregnant. I was there in the delivery room. I couldn’t miss that time.


#6

Hi, Good luck with your plan. I am a daily visitor of this forum. I love to read stories here. Your questions are very basic. It seems you are confused. The process is very simple. There are many clinics who will find a surrogate on your demand. You have to sign a contract with the surrogate. It is up to you that either you will allow her to hold the baby or have to meet the baby time to time. If you don’t want the surrogate to meet with the baby, you have to tell her. There is nothing wrong if the surrogate wants to hold the baby for the first and last time before giving it to you. why are you making things complicated. You have to respect her feelings. Giving your child to other is very hard decision. I hope you will understand her.


#7

I have a general question regarding surrogacy.
Like when we’ll have a baby from a surrogate mom who will hold the baby for the first time.
Us or the surrogate mom.
Its very hard to give birth to a baby.I know the pain of delivering a baby.
These type of several questions strike my mind many times.
I guess surrogacy is the only solution to my problem.
A friend has now suggested me to search for some international clinics that do not reside in our country.
You should also visit a surrogacy related clinic.
I have recently found one situated in Ukraine.
They have quite a costles package with all the facilities.
I have had many treatments from many experts but they never turn out to work out for me the way I hope them to.
I have tried IUI and IVF but they failed for me many many times.
People have now told me about surrogacy and I am really thinking about going for it.
I just need some guidelines as surrogacy is illegal in the state where I live and I am very scared.
I just need to complete my life and my family before it is too late for me even to try.
I think you should give it a try too because in my view it is quite a suitable procedure for women of our age
I have pregnancy issue and complications from the past 10 years and I still am childless as I have always been.
There must be some way to carry out everything legally, right?
It is very difficult at times to handle the loneliness and the depression but there are always friends and family to make me feel better.
One thing that I am very thankful for is that I never lose hope.


#8

It’s good that you’ve asked your heart out here. One should be completely convinced and satisfied before carrying out any process. Dear, you’re going to be present at the time of delivery and you’ll be the one who holds the baby, don’t worry. You’ve waited too long, it’s time you have your baby. Once the baby is born where surrogacy is legal, you take the baby with you back home. There won’t be any complications. I hope you have an amazing process done. Good Luck!


#9

Hey. It is good to hear that you found a way to have a baby. It is never easy for a woman to lose a baby. Many women faces infertility and many faces misarriages. I had uterine polyps and so I lost my 3 babies. I never thought that I would go through such disasters. But it was in fate. So I decided to choose something for me. Now I have a baby. I chose to go for surrogacy. I went to a clinic in Europe. I am happy that I chose it. I have a baby now. I have no more worries in my life. I am so happy that you found it useful. I hope everything will went well.


#10

Hello. it’s a great way to have babies. It is never simple for a lady to lose an infant. Numerous ladies face infertility. I have faced infertility for ten years. The reason was unknown for my infertility. Well, it was in destiny. So I chose to pick unnatural ways for me. I went for surrogacy. I went to a clinic in Europe. I am glad that I picked it. I have a child now. I have no more stresses throughout my life. I am happy to the point that you thought that it was beneficial. I wish everything will go well.


#11

Hey. Good luck for your plan. It’s a good thing that you asked before. Surrogacy is a blessing indeed. The process is really simple. The main thing is you have to find a good clinic for it. I have also a baby through Surrogacy. I had cervix Incompetence disease which left me Infertile. I was so devastated and upset. I had no idea what to do. then I heard about Surrogacy through forum. That by this Method you’ll have your own biological baby. Then I went to Europe for the Suggested Clinic. That’s the best Clinic. They found us a Sound surrogate, Who gave birth to our baby. I am a blessed mother now. I hope things will go right in your way.


#12

I can understand your feeling as i m also a victim of infertility.I m trying to conceive for last ten years.I have tried all possible methods like IUI and IVF but i dont have any luck with them. I m afraid that as i m getting aged this causes a lot of stress.I was hopeless but fortunately a friend of mine told me about this surrogacy. I have consulted some of the experts and all of the gave me positive views.It is banned in some countries and it is a bit expensive. In USA and Europe is legal and patients are giving positive reviews.Some of the success stories have motivated me this is the reason i m going for it.


#13

Hi girl how are you? Don’t worry about such things. I know it’s not an easy thing but you are a strong woman. My sister was suffering from infertility. She visited a clinic in the UK. They recommended her surrogacy. She had twins through this. Don’t worry and go for it. Till then best of luck


#14

Hey Lilly, I hope you’re doing well. I am extremely sorry to know about your struggles. 10 years is definitely a very long time period. Assisted conceptions are very unpredictable as you are never too sure if they will work for you or not. It is a good decision that you are going to opt for this procedure. I don’t really know much about it except that it has proven to be quite successful. I hope the very best of luck to you. I hope everything goes fine and you are soon able to be a mother.


#15

hello there. how are you? i understand it must have been hard for you. say strong. applause for you. more power to you. do no worry. don’t let negative thoughts mislead you. you should go for surrogacy in Ukraine. ill pray for you. hope it gets successful. you’ll have the cutest baby. surrogate moms are a blessing. they are doing such a noble work. but, after all, the baby will be only ours. good luck. will be waiting or the updates.


#16

hey. I’m so sorry you had to go through a lot. but at last, you made the right choice. your friend suggested you correctly. surrogacy is Ukraine is really successful. my sister herself is in Ukraine for her surrogacy procedure. she has osteoporosis. the clinic is very professional. we all family members are waiting desperately for good news. hope this work for you too. you should definitely go for it. they will give you accommodation too. surrogacy procedures are banned in other countries I just don’t know why. but there’s is nothing for you to be afraid of. you should go for it. take care. lots of love. you are strong.


#17

I am sorry to know about you. I empathize with you on your loss. You have been through a lot. I must say, you are a strong lady. I wish you luck for your surrogacy. Surrogacy is helping many in need. I am also one of them. I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. It was the worst day of my life. I was heartbroken and shattered. But then I came to know about this clinic in Ukraine. My friend had her IVF there. She insisted on visiting the same place. I am glad we did that. Now we have our baby girl. Sending love and wishes to you. More power to you. Stay calm and blessed.


#18

In gestational surrogacy, the intended mother’s eggs are placed in a petri dish, fertilized with either the sperm of the intended father or donor sperm, and placed into the surrogate’s uterus via in vitro fertilization. Through this method, the surrogate has no genetic link to the baby. Traditional surrogacy is often used by same-sex couples who wish to have a child but, for obvious reasons, do not have both sperm and eggs needed for fertilization. In this instance, the surrogate’s own eggs may be used. But this can present a complex legal question: is she or is she not the baby’s mother? There have been several high profile traditional surrogacy cases where, following (or even before) the baby’s delivery, the surrogate changed her mind about giving the baby to the intended parents. If a legal battle ensues, since she is the baby’s genetic mother, it presents a moral quandary for a court: no matter the paper trail of legal agreements between herself and the intended parents, the fact remains that she is biologically the baby’s parent. I have been through surrogacy in Bio tex clinic and the journey has been a blessing to me.


#19

HI, I’m sorry luv, you’re going through this. I’ve shared this on another thread already. Thought I have to post here. I’ve got loads of things to share about surrogacy process in Ukaine. 'Cause we’ve been through treatments there and are currently back for a sibling :blush: So here we go I absolutely love the idea of coming for surrogacy to this very country. Firstly, because it’s surrogacy friendly law. The baby is considered to be yours from the moment of conception. The surrogate cannot stand any rights. She has no right to keep the baby after delivery which makes couples absolutely safe. The birth certificate is issues with the names of the intended parents, so the baby’s theirs. Eveything’s simple when being guided with professionals in this field. I know for sure our biotex helps the IP with obtaining the birth certificate and other legal services. Friends of mine had a trouble when being at the exit process. She had a single letter differed in their marriage certificate which caused them a huge trouble. But biotex helped them through and soon they could take their baby girl home. Surrogacy may be the blessing for many people. But in Ukraine surrogacy is allow for heterosexual married couples only.
surrogacy process goes on like this.
Initial consultation. It usually contains the following activities: A set of tests depending on the program (fasting is mandatory). Consultation with a fertility specialist who will be in charge of your program (in case of stimulation you will need to have the transvaginal ultrasound check done). Consultation with a manager who will guide you through the program step by step. Signing of contracts. Before any initial consultation you will receive the Guidelines for the Initial Consultation – failure to follow these recommendations may affect the initial consultation in a negative way.
Search & confirmation of a surrogate mother, matching process. Waiting time depends on the type of contact.
Stimulation & synchronisation stage (about 2 weeks). The cycle of egg donor or the biological mother is synchronised with the cycle of a surrogate mother. According to your contract you have to follow all doctors instruction. In case of self-treatment or violation of the treatment protocol, the clinic may cancel the cycle and terminate the contract.
Fertilization day, embryo transfer - the 2nd visit. In case the biological mother undergoes hormonal stimulation and is being prepared for egg retrieval, the second visit may take up to 10 days. If we are talking about surrogacy using own eggs it is not recommended to leave the same day. Flying the following day is fine.The rules for sperm donation are similar as for the initial consultation – a man needs to abstain from ejaculation from 3 to 5 days before. After fertilisation the embryo development is monitored by embryology unit. The embryo transfer takes place on the 5th day. You will receive the protocol of embryo cultivation and transfer within 3 working days after the embryo transfer.
HCG test, pregnancy confirmation.
Pregnancy monitoring. Delivery.
Obtaining of the birth certificate for the baby (up to 1 week).
For more information you may visit oursurrogacyblog.wordpress.com or asiu.us. People are telling their incredible stories about surrogacy at biotex.
Hope this helps.


#20

For the couples who’re considering gestational carrier getting answers to the following questions might be useful. (Found those on the internet some time ago, thought it might be helpful to share here). ~
How long has the program been in operation? Does the program maintain a referral listing of previous client couples?
Does the program recruit its own surrogates? Through what means?
Will they work with a surrogate recruited by the couple themselves?
How are surrogates expenses handled? Is there a cap on these expenses?
Does the program offer medical screening of the surrogate? To what extent? Who does the screening?
Does medical screening include an AIDS test of surrogate and her partner?
What are the costs of surrogacy (gestational or donor)? What is the fee payment structure?
What are the financial obligations incurred by the couple? What is the payment schedule?
How long are the surrogate’s medical records kept?
Does the program offer psychological screening and counseling to all parties? To what extent?
Does the program offer on-site medical services (insemination or IVF) or do they work with local physicians and hospitals?
How many babies have been born through the agency/clinic’s surrogacy programs?
To what extent is contact between the surrogate and the couple encouraged? (By letter, meeting face-to-face, on-going?)
Can the couple be present at the birth?
What type of legal counsel is offered to the surrogate and the couple? Does this include the drawing up of contracts?
What are the fees for informational meetings or interviews?
If the surrogate does not get pregnant over a certain number of cycles, what is the clinic’s policy regarding refund of fees paid?
In the event that the contract is not honored, what are the financial obligations for the couple?
In the event that the surrogate has a pregnancy loss, what are the financial obligations for the couple?
Does the program have a registry for the surrogate and children to exchange information when the child reaches maturity?