Geojenn: My story
After TTC on our own for over 3 years, my husband I finally bit the bullet and went to an RE for help this summer. (We are both 36, and do not have any children.)
After testing my blood & HSG and a sperm analysis for hubby, it was diagnosed that our troubles are likely due to MFI. Counts are ok, but the motility is weak and the morphology is very low. Our RE recommended we skip over IUI and try IVF with ICSI — and away we went on the IVF journey.
Despite a slow start, I produced 9 mature eggs. 6 of them fertilized with ICSI and we were estatic to have a 5 day transfer. We transferred 1 grade A blastocyst and 1 grade B blastocyst—and our RE gave us a 75% chance of getting pregnant. Unfortunately, our other 4 eggs were left to grow a bit longer but never made it to freeze.
We were ecstatic to get our first BFP on FRER 6dp5dt. While my Beta’s weren’t exactly comforting—I doubled every 72 hours or less and my RE was happy.
My husband and I were so happy that we took the chance at IVF and were lucky to be one of those annoying couples that got pregnant the first try!!!
Our world came crashing down (for the first time) when we went for our first u/s with our RE at 6 weeks 3 days. When they couldn’t find a heartbeat and noted that we looked a week behind, my RE said there was no hope and sent me to my OB for a D&C. I became a puddle.
2 days later while at my OB’s office for a pre-surgery prep appointment, that wonderful u/s technician found a heartbeat much to everyones amazement. Even my husband cried in the u/s room. We were advised to be cautiosuly optimisitic—and remained in baby limbo for the next several weeks as we saw growth and improved heartbeat at follow-up u/s, but always knew our bean was at least a week behind. I was so looking forward to sending my RE a baby picture in July with a note about patience and a recommendation that 6weeks and 3 days was too soon to end the game for anyone!!!
Unfortunately, we went in for an u/s last week and found that our little one had passed. There was no longer a heartbeat and our weel developed fetal pole had completely disappeared—and there was “debris” in my gestactional sac. Due to my tilted uterus, and the fact that I had already been misdiagnosed once wtih a miscarriage, I went in for a 2nd ultrasound the next day to confirm and then scheduled my D&C for Friday. (Our RE asked that we send the tissue for chromosome testing)
So here I am on day 3 past my D&C, wondering how to proceed and where to start and how to get over this pain. Even my husband commented today—“is it just me, or are there babies everywhere” after the 3rd mention on tv shows up in less then an hour.
We’ve decided to take 3-6 months to focus on improving my egg quality and hubbys sperm quality. We’re definately going to try accupuncture—but I’m also starting to research supplements and my mind is swimming with all that info. I’d love to hear any MFI advice you may have!
But most of all—I’m sorry that you’re here too. Drop a line and tell us your story and how we can help!