It is ridiculous right?
Are you related to me?:flower: I have the same kind of family but only gets worse with divorce and new wives/husbands. But I think that people in the US need to be reminded of Good Etiquette 101. Just because you are related it still applies. The proper thing for your aunt to do was to accept the acknowledgement of the invite then respond through mail or phone call. Emails are so impersonal with family and should never be used unless overseas.
Facebook. That’s why I am not a fan so much. Statistics say most of the user of Facebook now are 45-60 yrs old. With that said they haven’t been through the online posting one on one crash course like us in our 30’s. We know what is appropriate and what is not-once it goes viral it is there for the world to see. Other people, like the cousin wife use Facebook as just what it says a “status” update.Those status updates are like look at me world and people putting their conscious on there too.
In regards to the shower.Babies as we know are a blessing but twins are more of a blessing in a family.
You know it will always be revealed who cares for you during crisis or celebration. When we lost our baby last year, my co-workers, neighbors, college friends that I don’t regularly talk to sent cards and messages of concern. And those are the people I stay in touch with because my misery wasn’t their gossip-you understand.
Look at this as a blessing. Would you want someone that miserable to come to your shower? I mean to say that has that attitude about I’m Queen Bee and not you. I have an uncle, moms brother who I know has money also. Anyways during my wedding he says oh I am sending you a nice gift…It was $25:woohoo: Friends gave triple that. And he didn’t show like other family members that RSVP but no show.But I was soooooooo glad because the most important people was there.
I have a holiday card rule for my distant family. You cannot change their relation to you but you don’t have to hold a grudge. You see Christmas cards are for those who you always keep in touch with and New Years cards are for those that don’t keep in touch with you.:flower: New Years is a time for resolutions, faith, and fresh start. New Year cards always make people think and remember because they are rare and never on time through US Post Office because of packages. They come when least expected. It keeps that person wondering all year long! LOL.
Again FB you have to ignore.Enjoy your shower and be thankful you are having one during these economic times. My family likes to have warning with parties because of distance and I figure if they really want to come they will make a way- I have heard about the “went to the casino” story also but we can’t come. Even though they knew about your journey, birth announcements can be general now through internet and personal cards for close fam/friends. And thanks to FB you can privatize and should who sees your pictures on FB.
Anyways…it was not venting. Glad I am not alone.
Thanks for sharing.
Let me know how the shower went.:flower: Cannot wait for part two. I am on bedrest and I love good stories.
Just wait until you have your baby shower(s). Some people are so freaking rude!
I have one aunt that insisted that I send her a baby shower invitation even though she can’t make it because she lives 8 hours away. This is the same aunt that brags to me about how she recently went to Vegas and wine country in California. She also lives in a million dollar house on the water. She has no kids of her own, only a grown step daughter. There has not been a baby on that side of my family in literally 30 years since my brother’s birth. She even sent me an e-mail to announce the arrival of my present like it was going to be a big deal (a carseat perhaps?). I get it and it is in a box with message of congratulations. I open it and she has bought a $20 item from my registry. Huh??? If she didn’t want to spend any money, why insist that I send her an invitation and make such a freaking big deal about it? I have aunts that can barely make their monthly bills that are spending $50 on a gift for my twins.
Tomorrow is my first shower for familiy and childhood friends. There are only 3-4 people that won’t be able to make it. In 2008, I threw a baby shower for my cousin’s wife. Rather than call me, send me a personal e-mail or send a present in advance (like another cousin who won’t make it), she decides the best way to let me know she won’t come is to announce on a facebook post that she won’t make it because of a marathon and to “have fun” (in other words, her life is wayyyy too important to be bothered with my shower or sending a gift). Maybe I’m a complete idiot but who runs marathons at 2pm on a Sunday afternoon? This is someone who declares how Godly she is at least 2-3 times a day on Facebook, yet apparently feels no guilt or remorse that she won’t “do unto others” as was done unto her. I invested alot of time, money and energy planning her shower and this is the thanks I get?
On the other hand, I have some friends and people that I barely know that are doing really sweet things (like making hand-made blankets, etc). Baby showers are like weddings, you see who really cares about you and are reminded of family members who are defined by their self-absorbed way of life.
Oh and both my aunt and my cousin’s wife KNOW about our infertility struggle too. I am just baffled by
their selfishness. No birth announcement for either one of them.
Thanks for letting me rant.[/QUOTE]