Hi all, I posted about a year ago as my wife and I went through our first IVF cycle which regrettably resulted in a failure. We were about to start our second IVF with a different doctor using a protocol that I felt better about, but we randomly got spontaneously pregnant the month prior to our scheduled IVF (we weren’t trying either). However, we got the bad news today that the baby’s heart stopped somewhere in the 8.5-9 week timeframe, so we’re now asking ourselves our next steps. Here’s a summarized version of our history:
- Been trying to get pregnant since Q1-2011 time frame. (We are now (Oct-2013) both 31, almost 32). My wife watched her cycles and we tried to time it, but we weren’t crazy diligent about it, and my work travel interfered a handful of times
- In Q1/Q2-2012 we did 2 or 3 IUIs with no success
- Q3/Q4-2012 we planned to do IVF. Blood, SA and Eggs all seemed good, we had been diagnosed with unknown reasons most likely related to a surgery my wife had at 12 years old due to significant surgery to her stomach area. Although no test could confirm any issues, it was assumed possible scar tissue somewhere.
3b. Last November we did IVF on a pretty weak med protocol and netted 10 eggs, 8 mature, all fertilized, put a grade-A 8-cell and grade-b 9-cell in on Day 3. No pregnancy, none of the remaining, lesser quality eggs made it to blast. The doctor had nothing to really offer us afterwards except bad luck and/or possible genetic issues
After that we decided we’d do IVF again in the following year. We didn’t really try to get pregnant as we felt there was no hope.
- Q3-2013, new doctor and new IVF protocol planned for Nov-2013. Hopeful to get better quality eggs and go to blast with a better lab, better doc and better protocol (antagonist)
- September 2013 - Wife misses period, blood test maxes out HCG. It was random luck/timing. Yay, exciting times!!!
- Three sonograms, Sept 25th, Oct 2nd and Oct 15th, all show good growth and strong heartbeat. All with IVF doctor, he sends us to our OBGYN. Life is well!
- Day after Oct 15th (our 3rd wedding anniversary) sonogram, doctor calls and reports slightly falling progesterone. Went from 23 to 17, but still within range and were told not to worry. We went on a planned vacation and returned.
- Today (which should be close to 10.5 weeks), moved to new OBGYN, no heartbeat. Doctor says baby stopped around 8.5 weeks which is right around or very shortly after our last sonogram which had a 165bpm heartbeat.
- D&C planned for Friday, will do genetic testing on fetus (any idea on the cost of that, not sure my insurance will pay. My insurance is good, but they don’t pay for IVF specifically, but other things they’ve paid for (hysteroscopy, etc.).
So that’s where we stand. For two healthy people with no real diagnosed problem, the thought of possible chromosomal issues becomes a bit more obvious to me. I guess we’ll know more after the fetus testing, but under these circumstances, does PGD and IVF make sense? Of course we’ll still try naturally which to date has yielded the best results, we will also consider IVF again, especially if needing PGD.
I didn’t pay much attention to the protocol of PGD and/or what testing needs to get done, what that costs and what the expectations are. My wife starts a new job tomorrow and it is rumored to have excellent insurance with IVF covered, but we don’t know. We paid cash and planned to pay cash for the canceled IVF, so obviously wasting money isn’t high on our list, however, at the same time we can afford this with not too bad a hit on savings, but given our past, it seems something is stopping us too frequently. If anyone has recommendations or insight on that, it’d help a lot. I found reading and asking here put me in a much more informed state when talking to doctors rather than just listening and being overwhelmed. From a genetic standpoint, some doctors had said we probably have small likelihood of any genetic issues as we have no family histories of issues, she is of Asian descent while I’m of mostly German descent. Any advice on our overall history is welcome as well.