It’s been so busy over here. I hope everyone is well. Everything crossed for you latina and gulliver!!! The waiting does suck.
I’m just waiting for my surgery on the 27th and then after that I have to sit out one cycle, so looks like June transfer at the earliest.
On the subject of transferring 3 embryos, I have a single mother by choice friend who is currently pregnant with quads. She transferred 3 and all three stuck then one split into identicals. Suffice to say, the odds of that are so so small as to be negligible and certainly not something she planned for.
I’m trying to help organize some help for her. The national SMC group founder is offering to collect donations for her tax deductible. Here’s her story and if you all can donate even $5 that would be awesome. Even better would be if you could share it with anyone you know and ask them to donate and share it with anyone they know so that we can get this to go viral and help her!
I transferred three as well when I did my IVF and would do the same again so this could have been any of us. Imagine… four babies!! It would be amazing and a blessing but also terrifying.
Please read, donate and share:
SMC Expecting Quads Needs Help
The post from Amy is below:
At age 36 I knew it was time to make my dream a reality and have a child. After spending years recovering from medical issues stemming from a car accident, and trying to find “Mr. Right”, I made the decision to start IUI’s to achieve my miracle on my own. I had 5 failed IUI’s with one traumatic miscarriage, but I refused to give up, so I decided to turn to IVF.
Following my Dr’s recommendation, I decided to transfer 3 embryos, with the hope that one would take. The IVF cycle was a success and when my first ultrasound showed I was pregnant with twins, I was shocked but also overjoyed! A week later, I had my follow-up and was anxious to hear those two little heartbeats. That day, I got the news that would forever change my life- not only were there two heartbeats- there were FOUR!! One of my twins split, and another sac had formed within a week. I was floored, scared, panicked, and excited all at once. This was the last thing I expected. I knew in my heart that I could never voluntarily reduce an embryo, and as long as they were flourishing, I knew they all were meant to be mine. But what now?
I planned for one. I would have been able to handle two. But, four? I am frankly, still in shock. I cannot even begin to fathom what childcare, clothing, and basics of day to day life will cost me, let alone things like college tuitions for four at the same time.
Today, I am 17w3d and doing wonderfully. While I embrace everyday with these 4 miracles in me and relish every moment of this wild adventure I am also terrified. I have had to go on disability, as I am on complete bed rest, which has taken a hit on my income. I am almost certainly facing more time off with NICU stays and I am still not sure how to juggle everything because I do not know yet what my future will hold and all my energy is spent on growing these little miracles. My job is very physically demanding so I am not yet sure what sort of toll this pregnancy will have on my past car accident injuries or how it will affect my ability to return to work.
I am more than embarrassed to ask for help but my local SMC community has rallied around me and has taken it upon themselves to help without my asking it. One SMC friend contacted Jane and asked if she could post this so that everyone who wanted to help had one central place where they could do so. I am just amazed at all the support I have received from this community and thankful for that alone, but please know that I will pay all this kindness forward and will never forget how everyone came and lifted me up when I most needed it.
Donations may be made through SMC. Go to Our Community | Single Mothers by Choice and click on the “Donate” box on the right side of the page. To be sure that your donation goes to Amy, please send us an email ([email protected]) and let us know that you’ve made a donation for her.