So unsure what to do next


My history: TTC for a year in 2008.
Diagnosed with DOR in 2009 at age 32.
4 IUIs, all neg
IVF#1 5 eggs retrieved, 3 fert, all abnormal, no transfer
IVF#2 cycle cancelled, premature ovulation
IVF#3 2 eggs retrieved, 1 fert, day 3 transfer, blighted ovum, D&C
DE IVF#1 cycle cancelled, lump found in breast (fluid cyst)
DE IVF#2 8 frozen donor eggs thawed, 7 fert, 2 transferred, 5 blasts frozen

I had a pretty uneventful pregnancy until I developed HELLP syndrome and our twins were born via emergency Csection at 33w3d. They were in the NICU for 6.5-7.5 weeks. We all turned out fine and we are so very blessed to have them.

It is now five years since we fertilized those 7 eggs, and we are now facing what seems to be an impossible decision on where to go from here with our 5 frozen blasts. At that time, we didn’t think of ‘extra’ embryos the same way or to the extent we must now… There are soooo many things to consider as I feel it is time to come to some decisions.

We recently scheduled a FET. Prior to staring this cycle, I had hysterosocpy with adhesion lysis. Then this cycle was cancelled due to fluid not resolving and lining not looking great.

Given the very serious complication of HELLP syndrome I had, does it make sense to try again? Supposedly a singleton pregnancy would be much less risk. And subsequent cases are likely less severe and later. But it IS a KNOWN risk of recurring… What if it happened again and something serious happens to the baby and/or me, my twins’ mother?

If we do try again ourselves, do we PGD test first? Is this a greater risk to the embryos (thawing/refreezing) vs the info gained? What if they’d find a chromosome abnormality that wasn’t considered fatal, but still compatible with life?

if we don’t try again ourselves, we are faced with the other decisions. Ones that my husband and I are super conflicted about…


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how’d it go?


infertility is a hard issue and we all know it takes a lot of time, nerves, health and money. It’s an emotional rollercoaster and not all couples could cope with it. I know about infertility because we have been struggling with this issue many ears. I lost my hope in a bright future, I couldn’t work properly, I cried without tears, I blamed myself. I nearly lost my spouse… but then U decided to fight, we started our journey. We found a good place for us, for our future family. That place was in ukraine, thanks all good people there we are pregnant (my surrogate as I’m not able to carry a baby)
Anyway, we are happy and I do believe you are doing great too.


I understand what you are going through. Your infertility journey is long indeed. But do not despair., There is always hope. Just find a good clinic and start the process again. I know of a couple who went for 15 years TTC. They always motivate me. That it just takes patience and persistence. Look at the positive side of life. Move on from negativity. I had also been TTC for over 5 years. But I can say my journey was not rough like yours. Although id did stress me. Tried 3 procedures and they all failed. 2 IVF and 1 IUI. All failed,. I was just waiting for that BFP. Which seemed never to appear. But I later got hopes. I learnt of Bio tex clinic online. There services were best. So I decided to go for surrogacy. If you have a change of mind you can reconsider. Here is the link



I can’t help with dir experiences, but PGS NGS worked for a few friends of mine.


Hi! I experienced PGD testing. Dr suggested PGD as I had a miscarriage the previous years before going ivf route. She also suspected me to be a carrier of Wilson disease. It’s a very rare treatable disorder. I had already been through 2 failed ivf cycles with oe when dr told us to move on egg donation. Whatever your next step is I wish you all the best of luck!


That is confusing, You should ask this to yourself about what you really want to do. Maybe you are eager to conceive or just want to have that feeling. You should understand your priorities Because that matters most. Once you would get your answers. You would feel like going. Rather you just sit back and think what actually you want. Good wishes.


Hello Darling! I know you’re been through a really really long and tough path. So, yes! I can relate how much tougher it gets for a person. Anyway! Well, my cousin sister also had same issues just like you. She wasted her 7 years as a TTC. Later also had an accident; lead toward HYS. Such an unfortunate she was atm. So, yeah! Anyway! Last year she went to a center in Ukraine for a surrogacy procedure. It really helped her in changing her life. Finally, she had a child for herself and her husband. They had it! Anyway!


TTC was not an easy job for me as i had many complications while getting pregnant.
I conceived for three times but every pregnancy resulted in miscarriage.So i gave up on getting pregnant again.
I started to look out for the alternatives of having a baby.
While researching about surrogacy i came across the name of a clinic many times.
I had researched about many other clinics too.
Than i contacted the clinic and told them every aspect of my complication.
They said i can have a baby via surrogacy.
They will find a good surrogate for our child.
This is our little story of Surrogacy and most probably after TTC.


Hey. I hope you do good. It is indeed a long path you have traveled on. I can relate to the frustration you must be having now. You need to stay strong. Keep your hopes high.Its all up to you about how you want to go next? Give yourself a break. Think with a fresh mind about your priorities. Good luck!


Hey, I hope you’re doing well. Congratulations to you. I am glad things worked out in the end. You always just have to be patient and wait. In the end, things do work out in your favor. You just have to have faith in yourself. I am sure the journey must have been exciting for you. Tell us more about your journey.


I’d recommend considering PGD. It is a genetic testing performed to the embryo prior to the implantation. You can make sure that embryos are healthy or determine the gender of embryos. PGD tests not only for genetic diseases but for chromosomal abnormalties. At the age of 38 yrs and older 50% or more of our embryos are going to be chromosomally abnormal. Most chromosomal abnormalties are fatal and end in miscarriage. Some, like trisomy 21 (Down’s syndrome) may result in a viable birth. So it’s very useful when clinic has the PGD testing option.