My husband and I were both 29 and did our first round of IVF with ICSI. After this failed attempt we met with our RE and the room began to spin. What we though was just a low motility issue turned into a conversation about plan b and c. He told me that I had a severe egg quality issue. He wasn’t optomistic that trying again would produce a different outcome. I asked if it could have been the suppressing medications since he mentioned that they just didn’t stimulate as they should have. He said it was so severe that he thought it was difinitely more than that. We left that appointment crying but determined to keep trying… Financially it was a very hard decision. We had already paid over $12,000 out of pocket for the first IVF cycle. Now we were looking at even more since we were going to increase the dose on the stimulating medication.
I have always been very stable mentally but I could honestly say that I became depressed over this situation. The time between the first failed attempt and the second attempt included Thanksgiving and Christmas, both of which I was surrounded by pregnany family and babies. It was miserable - especially with the prognosis that any future attempts would likely not be successful and I would need donor eggs or move to adoption…
Well the second cycle worked!
****What I wish someone had told me is that a change in the medication could make all the difference. ****
The doctor changed the medication to a different “cocktail” and I had much better results. I was even able to freeze for our second time around.
My advice is to pay for more than one round the first time if they offer discounts in that way. We paid for a single, then (due to the lack of hope) we paid for a triple (which we didn’t use, therefore losing that money…)