Thanks for the responses! While everyone was being thankful on Thanksgiving day, I wanted to say “I’m thankful for tampons!”, as I started my period on Thanksgiving!
Yes, we are very lucky, and sometimes I forget that. I’m lucky enough to now be smart enough to stop and think, and not ask someone when they plan to have kids!
Another upside is that I’ve lost all “shame”, if you want to put it that way. I work retail, “big box home improvement store”, as a cashier, and was talking to a male, single co-worker the other day, just shooting the breeze. He asked when we were going to have kids, and without hesitation or even a blush, I very blatantly said, “His swimmers don’t swim so good!!”, with a smile on my face! A year ago I was embarassed to say, “we’re trying”, even before knowing we were having problems, as I figure it’s no one else’s business to begin with. But now, I feel I’m slightly educating others by being so open about our issues. It may embarrass them, but at the very least maybe they’re learning they shouldn’t ask if they don’t really want to know the truth!!
I think the best upside for me is that I’ve gained a great friend in a high school classmate. She transferred back to the store she helped me get a part-time position at when I had no job at all, so we see each other at work frequently. After telling everyone on FB that my DH and I are dealing with IF during NIAW, she sent me a private message to tell me she and her husband are struggling, too. We didn’t run in the same circles in h.s., but now we’re in touch on a regular basis, commiserating with each other when AF shows her ugly face, and sympathizing with each other every time there is another pg/birth announcement on FB…which seems to be at least once a week, lately!
And of course, this online community has been a Godsend! :grouphug: