My wife and I just started consulting a specialist for our issues in trying to conceive. At the same time, I’ve heard a lot of stories about how these treatments can frequently just be a waste of time, money, effort and tears.
A good friend of mine was going through a similar thing with his wife and they advised us that we just do what they wished they had done all along - adopt. My wife is open to the idea already; understandably so, since it is she who has to go through most of the physical difficulties involved in trying to conceive.
But I still want to try and have our own child. I know that there is nothing wrong with adopting. I also know the risks and difficulties people go through when they have to deal with infertility but are trying their hardest to conceive. But at the end of the day, I just want to have a child that I know came from the two of us.
Am I being too selfish?