It may just be the pregnancy hormones, but I’ve been getting so mad the last few weeks because my husband won’t stop enjoying alcohol while I’m pregnant. We have always been a glass-of-wine-or-two-a-night-and-probably-a-couple-martinis-on-the-weekend type of couple, and this part of the IVF treatments and now the pregnancy is such a bummer.
I feel like, on top of all the harsh IVF stuff we girls have put our bodies through, now we have all the new pregnancy restrictions (no hot tub, no caffine, diet changes) and body changes (um hello! like every symptom) to contend with…and right now I still have all the early pregnancy restrictions (pelvic rest (!), limited activity, no working out, no swimming, etc). Don’t get me wrong, I am so thankful to have had IVF success and be pregnant, but I’m having a hard time accpeting all the things I used to be able to do that are gone. And watching him outside enjoying our hot tub after his great workout with a beer in hand is - if I’m being honest - just pissing me off. It’s like his life is just continuing as normal while I’m the one making all the sacrifices.
He’s being supportive and pretty great otherwise, and gets really defensive when I ask him to stop. He says that this is what I signed up for and he shouldn’t be reprimanded or made to feel guilty since he is otherwise supportive.
Does anyone else have this argument with their significant other? Am I just over reacting?