April will make it 5 years now that my husband and I have been TTC. I am almost to the point of adoption which is something I have always wanted to do along with giving birth to at least one biological child. Before we go forth with foster adoption or making the decision to give up and not to have kids at all, I just wanted to see what my options are.
I currently have two nieces and a nephew that we care for but they should be going back to live with there mother sometime this summer and so now it is our time to start a family.
I am 32 years old and my husband is 29, neither of us have any kids. I have always had a regular cycle of 28 days with the very occasional lateness. I have always had heavy periods but for about the last year they seem to be a little more normal/lighter. As stated above we have been trying for just at 5 years and have never gotten pregnant. I would LOVE to do fertility testing but unfortunately our insurance does not cover it.
Every year I get my blood work done and everything is in range. I have low blood sugar and often times I am hypoglycemic. My blood pressure is good, thyroid always checks out okay etc… My A1C was 74.
I do not seem to show signs of PCOS, (not an apple shape, regular periods, sugar is not high etc…) but I often wonder if I have it. I do have a dark patch of skin on the back of my neck. Can a PCP check for PCOS? How do they check/diagnose PCOS?
I am just really starting to face the reality that we may not have children. I did not realize how long we had been trying until I thought about our 5 year anniversary coming up. I tried not to worry about getting pregnant after about the 2 year mark since we could not have testing done and I guess in doing so I really did not think of it much at all. Now I feel like time is running out and I do not have many resources since the testing etc is not covered. I am looking for any guidance that can be given.
I also wanted to say that we may possibly try and get financing for me to have the lap band surgery done. I am great hopes that if we go that route we will possibly get pregnant after I lose weight but since we have no idea why we are not conceiving I don’t know if losing the weight will be the problem solver. I remember asking my OBGYN if it was okay for me and my husband to try and conceive even at my weight and she said “of course” and said she did not see a problem with it at all. She said that since I had regular monthly cycles all should be fine.
I do know that I absolutely must lose the weight though and that is why we are going to try and finance the procedure.