I love your philosophy, Kashir! I try to remember the science behind any of the recommendations, and that helps me keep things in perspective. I’m hoping that once I become a mother (to a human anyway), that I’ll be able to be a “moderation is key” type of person. I don’t think it’s healthy to obsess about everything. Life really is meant for living… I don’t want to compete for the best this or that, or obsess about every single thing. Case in point: I eat organic fruits and vegetables, but I only insist on getting the “Dirty Dozen” organic. And if I have a dish in a restaurant that’s made with non-organic vegetables, I know it’s not poison.
Anyway, caffeine is OK. The science says that there’s a correlation between high caffeine intake (more than 500mg) and miscarriage in the 1st trimester. It also correlates with lower infertility (in both men and women) during IVF cycles. But I would think that occasional cups, even during the 1st trimester, is totally reasonable.
I don’t want to obsess about everything. I need ways to relax. The main reason I am drinking very little caffeine right now is that it helps me not be agitated. I’ve noticed I just seem chemically “more anxious” for no reason all the time, so I’m avoiding caffeine because of that.
[QUOTE=kashiruvana]I gave it up in the first trimester. I bought some decaf versions of my favorite black tea to substitute (yeah, it still has some caffeine but it’s so tiny), but it turned out that the smell of black tea was, like, my main food aversion! About halfway through the second trimester, though, I started drinking it again, and by the end of the third trimester, I had a cup most days. I would say, if you feel guilty, do what you can to reduce your caffeine intake, but you’re not going to hurt your baby. Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of, “Don’t you appreciate your baby enough to do absolutely EVERYTHING just perfect?” That’s a useless, harmful type of thinking that is absolutely coated on pregnant women and mothers, and if you let seriously, it starts out as little things like that and it just snowballs. You’ll never have a day where you don’t see people judging parents for the big and the little things they do, so start practicing that confidence now, whether you decide to have that coffee or not.[/QUOTE]