Hi - I keep struggling with this issue and thought someone might have experience with this or been through something similar. I got married about 6 months before a friend did, and we talked early on about how DH and I were trying, etc. Well at her wedding she pulled me aside to say she wanted me to be one of the first to know that she was already pregnant and how they weren’t even trying, and “could I believe it, they weren’t even trying!” I was happy for her but also felt hurt and a bit weird at how she delivered the news (the “we weren’t even trying” over and over!) considering she knew we’d been trying for months, but thought, well, I’m just being bitter b/c of what I’m going through, let it go.
Anyway, I finally told her recently that I had to have my fallopian tubes removed due to endo, and the day of my surgery she left me a long message telling me how crazy and hard it’s been for her to be pregnant, and how scary it is - that’s what the whole message was about and that’s the first msg I had when I woke up from surgery. She’s always been a tad on the self-focused side, but with lots of good qualities that made up for it. But this took the cake.
I have lots of friends who are pregnant but with this one, I just feel so resentful. Am I just being sensitive because of the emotional rollercoaster we’re going through? Or should I just accept that maybe she’s not such a great friend? Now that she’s had her baby I just don’t feel comfortable making a fuss. My emotions are so all over the place that I just don’t know.
Thanks for listening!